Ask Lemmy

So, I haven't seen it mentioned yet, but drugs aren't the major problem here. We have presumably an adult male giving hard drugs to an underage female.

This could easily be a situation where management is grooming this poor girl so they can rape her. Police need to be notified ASAP.

Your son's high school buddies are not more important than the safety of a child.

Hell, depending on your state you might have a legal obligation to report this to the police.

I think there's a couple of nested problems. The first problem is a manager is giving employees meth, which could have been your son, if not now then maybe one day. You know what to do about this, but it's nested within another problem, which is how to do that without alienating your son.

So talk to your son about what bothers him about what happened and what he wants to do about it. Then, after he talks, tell him how it made you feel and what you want to do about it. Ask him if that's something he would like to do, have help with, or have you do for him.

You're asking the right questions, but I think you're asking the wrong people.

Yo if a manager is giving their children workers meth that is 1000% a police report and if your son gets punished that sounds to me like an easy lawsuit. Please for the love of God report this, the kid is probably already fucked for life but this manager could be using their position to get kids hooked on drugs so that they can do pedo shit. Someone has to say something.

Report it to the police, corporate and consider talking to your local news. Make sure school admin is aware as well. If you can shift them to different schools (i know not always possible) do so.

My usual response to this kind of thing is to get louder not quieter, that said, I'm also able to put on an angry enough face to make people cross the road which is not a power everyone has.

Go with your comfort level but I would urge reporting to the police and doing what you can to get out of what sounds like broken area.

You know who have short memories? Teenagers and drug users. You know who constantly have drama in their lives? Yep, teenagers and drug users.

If you decide to take action, wait three weeks and submit the complaint anonymously. Every police force has an anonymous tip line. Don’t get too specific like saying “we saw X manager give U employee meth on date”. Say that you witnessed management distributing drugs to minors and hang up.

With the passage of time. Your son will presumably be in a new job and the prior one will have long forgotten him due to high turnover. You can do something while still protecting your son. Just be sure he never, ever, let’s anyone know that you/he submitted the anonymous complaint.

I'm going to be an asshole here but hopefully it adds perspective. Do you care if the girl dies of a drug overdose, or that she may be getting targeted with grooming by a manager for other reasons? If you do, you report it. If you don't then just live your life and turn a blind eye. There is no in between. Hopfully nothing happens to the girl that you could have prevented.

I think it's worth being called a snitch to help stop a young girl from being abused.

There is no proper age for meth. 😱

Police, corporate, news, and raise hell on social media.

Meth? This ain't no small thing. Save anyone from meth addiction and that is a good thing.

Corporate can defranchise them. So raising this on social media would work.

I'm pretty sure regardless of anything else...

Help your son look for a new job. This is not an environment I would be fostering. Help him find a more suitable place to be.

The rest of it, you may still have trouble deciding what to do, but I don't think it matters nearly as much as helping to find or create a better environment for him to work in.

Retaliatory firing for something as illegal as that sounds like a free couple million dollars, before lawyer expenses of course.

Your son needs to find a different job. That sounds like a really bad working environment. There are plenty of other fast food restaurants that don’t have meth problems. And if there aren’t in your area, find something else to do.

If there's retaliation I'd ask myself if I'd be ok with my son being raised in a town where meth usage is not only normalized but trying to stop it is stigmatized. I already know the answer to that question, hell no.

Think, if his friends are mad at him for snitching, what will they be doing in the future, if not are already doing now? They'll be experimenting with meth and as they get older and your son will probably get pressured into it to.

I don't think them being teenagers is an excuse. My friends tried plenty of drugs, weed, ecstacy, peyote, cocaine. Never fucking meth.

I say, alert the authorities and watch what happens. If the response is negative then you don't want to live in that shit hole anyways. I know, easier said than done, but this is your kids future were talking about and you don't want them in a town that will get them sucked into meth.

It's a tough choice between ruining your kids social and school life for a few years or letting the lives of many kids be thrown down the toilet because of a meth addiction.

I know that you want to protect you and yours but, morally, you have to do something to make this stop. As others have said, go to the police, the school/s and the local news and make as big of a stink over this as you can, those managers need to go to jail and those kids need to be rescued from life destroying consequences of the actions of adults that should fucking well know better.

Have a talk with your kid and see what they think should be done and put a plan in place for them to be supported in the aftermath and even consider moving home if that is at all a viable option for you.

Call up your local news station and newspaper, offer them the story. If they turn you down, call up another one.

I don’t know what you want to hear. You seem to understand the right thing to do and the potential consequences. There’s no easy way here but I know the decisions I’d be able to best sleep at night having made. When it comes to kids safety and well-being, helping a kid on meth takes precedence over potential reputation damage.

Another way to look at it… isn’t giving drugs to ”underage” people (children) pretty clearly child abuse, and required to be reported?

You call the fucking feds and report that shit. You do not fuck around with meth.

the poor girl potentially having legal issues come of this is not a good outcome. getting the cops involved rarely creates a net good.

So I don't know if you're in the US but if you are all it takes is one anonymous phone call to have the doors busted down at every address you give them.