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Someone just asked the opposite of this question here and I was wondering if there are cases were you're just not interested in something but you know the community is great nonetheless.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Boardgaming. I play an occasional boardgame with my friends, but I'm not searching youtube clips for strategies, importing first-print Euro games in the original German and printing English-language stickers for the boards, or watching Essen livestreams every year.

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

One that’s less relevant now, but throughout my life has been relevant: Juggalos.

I was a big metalhead in school, and i had a bunch of juggalo friends. I liked a couple of their songs well enough, but I found the “culture” grating. Still, those mothafuckas were the most accepting and tolerant people I knew. Tolerant of anyone’s way of life, except they fucking hated bigots. In the 90s, being accepting of queer peeps really wasn’t in vogue (to put it lightly) but juggalos welcomed queer peeps as friends with open arms.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Lol same. Juggalos are just awesome and wholesome. The music is soooooo bad tho.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Hahaha yeeee bad… but sometimes very funny. “Fuckin magnets” is timeless

[–] [email protected] 2 points 21 hours ago

Alright. I looked up what you're talking about. I believe your referencing the song Miracles. Which is wholesome AF and an absolute banger. 10/10. No notes

[–] [email protected] 71 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Furries are cool people ~~and the backbone of modern society~~

[–] [email protected] 61 points 1 day ago (1 children)

This. To be clear I have absolutely no problem with furries existing and I believe anything less than letting y'all be would be tantamount to treason.

But God damn I just cannot understand it. I don't get it. And it weirds me out.

Like I said, I would actually fight to defend your right to wear your fur suit out in public. But I'm also going to make fun of you because man it's just weird.

Although I did have a coworker (I work in IT so this isn't actually that surprising) who was a furry and he tried to meow at me one time when I called his name. Don't do that. That was weird. Just tell me what you did to fix the computer man.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago

Although I did have a coworker (I work in IT so this isn't actually that surprising) who was a furry and he tried to meow at me one time when I called his name. Don't do that. That was weird. Just tell me what you did to fix the computer man.

He did. What you don't understand is that meowing at the problem is often the solution. If meowing doesn't work, try barking.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago

I like furries because I appreciate modern technology. If all the furries went to lunch at the same time, we'd be eating each other in the streets before they made it to the diner.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I was never into furry stuff, but I hung out with an online furry community way back in 2006. Furries are cool. Furryism is just not for me.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 day ago

Same, lots of great people and a nice community. As a whole, they're very accepting folks too and have no problems with the respectful non-furs.

[–] [email protected] 125 points 1 day ago (4 children)

For me it's Metal music. It's just absolutely not my genre but an overwhelming amount of metalheads I met were just the nicest, most wholesome and fun people all around.

[–] [email protected] 50 points 1 day ago (1 children)

We trash and bash in the mosh pitts, and get out our aggression. But if someone falls, you YANK them up. Many times I've fallen, and then suddenly felt myself lifted high into the air by the hand of god. Then I can see who lifted me, and it turns out it wasn't god. It was a long haired, bearded, tattood muscleman. Which makes sense. I'm like 300lbs. If you're suddenly yanking me up effortlessly, you're a big muscle man. And then there's other times I see women fall. I yank them up. I'm doing the right thing, I KNOW I'm doing the right thing, but the whole time I'm just like "Sorry sorry sorry sorry." because you don't aim where you grab. You grab and yank up, by whatever you can. You don't want the pitt to come her way and stomp her head, not knowing she exists down there. So yank, but also "Sorry sorry sorry sorry". I've yet to have any women mad at me for doing it, they get it, but MAN it feels weird just grabbing a woman like that.

Pushing, shoving, looks like a massive fist fight but it's all love. We're trusting them with our life. They're trusting us with theirs. We all get super violent, and have a good time. Then the show lets out, and we're like "Oh, you wanna go get some late night eats? Anyone know a good gyro spot?", and we're just friendly for the rest of the day. We're like the Canadians of music genres. Violent when we play, and friendly the rest of the time.

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[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 day ago (3 children)

There is research and papers showing that heavy music in general can actually be therapeutic and make someone calmer, rather than the perceived opposite effect. It can be a great outlet. I listen to metal, heavy music, all the time but when I have used it as a coping mechanism, i.e. an outlet for stress, it has definitely allowed me to release such tension. Not only that, but singing/screaming to vocals along to the music surely does release all of energy, and while there are outsiders who might perceive the music as 'angry' the incorrect connection they're making is that anger is an energetic emotion, as in unreleased energy/tension. Metal isn't angry music, it is energetic. That is why it makes such good workout music. It stimulates and satisfies that part of our lives, letting us be some of the 'nicest, most wholesome and fun people all around'.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

And I've always loved that mostly the lyrics are not like a lot of music that is just... I love you, I stalk you, I am nothing without you ... Puke

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago

You’re all in it together. That’s just the whole vibe

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 day ago

Metal Heads will absolutely be your best friends in time of need. Need help moving a body, no questions asked? Call your metal friend.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 19 hours ago

Anime. I don’t get it, but boy those anime girls are so cute. <3

[–] [email protected] 71 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Lesbians. Hate that they aren't into me, but damnit I get it.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago (3 children)

They also have more in common with you than any gay person ever will.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Huh??? But we are a subset of gay people???

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I think they mean gay as in gay men. A lot of people see gay as strictly masculine and lesbian as strictly feminine.

Which is ironic cause it should kinda be the other way around depending on your point of reference

I'll be honest with you I don't even know what I was trying to say originally I just wanted to make that masculine/feminine joke

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

Not really but that would be hilarious

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Metal and punk music, not my style but def my scene

Skateboarding/ bmx/ rollerblades / scooters- have a fucked up knee so I don’t like to anymore but I love the energy the crowd brings

Street racing- car scene is dying and wifey doesn’t let me any more 🙃

Graffiti art- I’m just bad at it

Furries - not my thing but they’re fun folks

Larping / roleplay/ dnd - same

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Pineapple on pizza. You're wrong and I wanna fight you but we can still be friends and have a good time over drinks.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 day ago (3 children)

No I am not wrong. And I can raise you with pineapple on burger.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 23 hours ago

This is gonna be just like my buddy at my old job where it became an office-wide (joke) rift and everybody took sides and anytime someone new joined we'd ask them which side they were on and there was much hemming and hawing on Slack.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

Grilled pineapple on a burger.

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[–] [email protected] 56 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Books. I'm dyslexic as fuck but heavy readers are mostly chill people.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Did you ever get into audio books? It's nice to have someone else read to you at bedtime or during a commute.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Ooohh ooh audio books are my bag baby yeah.

Podcasts too.

It's all about timbre and accent. I could listen to the right voice read the phone book.

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[–] [email protected] 32 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (5 children)

Smokers. They have decades of being able to strike up an angry conversation in a street with an absolute stranger, whilst never letting it escalate, because, fuckit, brotherhood of smokers.

Plus a healthy appreciation of nature. Sure you can smoke and look at your phone, but you still have to be outside and that means glancing up from time to time to look at the scenery, the night sky, to wave at your neighbours, etc.

Good people smokers, filthy habit.

(Vapers dont count, cos you can't really share a vape concurrently. Also a lot of them take pride in their devices which I find weird. Real smokers have a decent sense of self-hatred at their habit)

[–] [email protected] 3 points 23 hours ago

I miss smoking so much. It really is an awesome habit. Or would be if not for the cancer, COPD, and financial ruin.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

Not sure what kind of smokers you meet. The ones I have to deal with blow cancer in my face right next to children, get aggressive when I ask them not to, spit on the floor every 5s, throw their still lit cigs into trash bins or into nature and cant stop coughing on the train.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Fuck yeah, I miss it. Smokers are my people. Risk takers, nihilists, indulgers, hedonists, adventurers, rebels, fun-havers… but I’ve gotten domesticated and want to live a long and clean life. Sigh.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 day ago

I don't like to dress in a slutty outfit and go out in the public

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

Horses. Let’s say she was rather liberal regarding stuff.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 day ago (3 children)

My wife is a huge Rush fan. I've been to two concerts, I don't get it. It's loud, it's screechy, I can't understand the lyrics, but they're her favorite band.

Bought her the "Rush 50" set for our anniversary next month:

https://www.rushbackstage.com/product/6XAMRU303/r50-backstage-exclusive-super-deluxe-edition

She tolerates my taste:

https://youtube.com/playlist?list=OLAK5uy_nU_JDbqfgfN7-xDYOi2lzyoC9cjh7ajq4

https://youtube.com/playlist?list=OLAK5uy_liRnR3E2H7SpBrYXT-3CJye3snP3P3w5g

[–] [email protected] 3 points 23 hours ago

I worked with some people from Chile once, and they ALL loved rush. there was like 30 of them, they had in common where they came from, and rush. Like it's a thing. Even the ones whose English was so-so knew every word to every song. I miss jamming with em. Fucking epic air drums!

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Surprising from a user named stinky. I guess you're more the type who don't frown when you go down to brown town.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Marijuana Aficionados. I've been straight edge my entire life but always hung out with them. Now, it is more common since legal restrictions have been lifted. The community in general is well, chill.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 day ago (8 children)

My dad gave me advice a hundred years ago, and it's probably a George Carlin bit or something, but there's a difference in philosophy between drunks and stoners. A drunk will pound a beer, or sip from a personal flask, or bring their own six pack to a party. A stoner's first impulse is to light a joint and find someone to pass it off to. It's communal, and it brings others into the circle, where alcohol is isolating. Obviously it's a generalization, but it sort of fits.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 day ago

Real stoners always load a full bowl.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

ranked competitive sex

edit: oh and also trans girls, now that i think about it.

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