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I really struggle to answer this even though I have this constant feeling of something being wrong. I've been quite lucky with genetics and the things I've wanted to change that can be changed I pretty much already have.
I guess there are two things I'd like to even further improve on:
Good health. But alas.
I wish I was happy. Not even all of the time, just some?
Ugh, I feel this. I'm just so done.
Wish I wasn't depressed and anxious so I could do what normal people seem to do normally every they meanwhile it takes me a week if I have better episode.
I wish I was more Christlike.
No matter what you believe about Christianity, you can't deny that He is a pretty good role model.
I'm a particular fan of the "flipping the tables of the vendors at the temple" behavior.
Someone made an offhand comment that I would be an otter if only I were more laid back.
And honestly, that made me kinda wish I could be more relaxed and chill. Everything just seems to important and stressful and difficult and intense to me... I wish I could just turn that all off and just let things happen to me as they come rather than fearing and planning for the future.
I wish I was more disciplined/focused.
I sometimes wish I could be social without feeling mentally and physically drained.
I wish I was worth peoples' time.
I wish my relationship wasn't so very, very, very, very bad. And I wish I could be independent financially and not trapped as I am.
You honestly have no idea how bad it can get. Don't ignore red flags.
That sucks. I'm sorry.
I wish I didn't have an addictive personality. I just wanna be a casual heroin user, is that too much to ask for? I don't want to sell my mom's TV for another hit rather have a job and pay for my own scores. Ya know responsibly
I wish I was persuasive
A really old book, how to win friends and influence people, can teach you this.
That I was as socially confident as other people seem to be, I don't care if it's all a facade, I want to be able to use the facade.
What helps me is knowing that everyone is fucking awkward.
I've met thousands upon thousands of people and I have never met anyone who is not socially awkward, just a lot of people who are socially skilled in different ways.
The people who don't come across as awkward are the people who acknowledge their awkwardness and own it, who give themselves an opportunity to fumble with their awkwardness and to get used to it the same way you do with any other difficult thing like math or reading or studying or dance or games.
I said all of that to say, not being awkward is not a talent, it is a skill, and you can learn it.
I wish I was a dog for real.
Honestly, I'm not even a furry but it has to be exhilarating to be a big wolf or cat.
To not procrastinate.
I'll comment on this later.
Be able to draw fast. I'm hilariously slow at drawing 😂
Stay out of the wild West
Not having any signs or traits of being neurospicy
Fitness/athleticism.
This for sure! I didn't appreciate my knees enough when they worked better.
If someone was asked to describe me in a single word, I wish their response would be “kind.”
I wish i was genuinely kind. Faking it is exhausting, and confusing.
I wish to know, what free will even is, and how it could be possible.
I seen a lot of people have this particular question and the question that I have for them is what isn't free will?
On the religious side you've got the people who are saying God knows everything so he already knows what you're going to do. On the science side you've got all humans are just chemicals in a hot dog casing.
My opinion is, either which way you look at it you are free to choose what you want to do.
Just because somebody can make you question the freedom of your choices does not mean that your choices are not born of free will.
