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You should try pondering cylinders. its pretty amazing..

I like to ponder my girlfriend's glorious orbs.

Have I understood correctly?

When I tried that, it lasted me for almost a year and a half, before I unfortunately got a second job that required MFA and I needed to be more online in general due to juggling two jobs. And it was amazing!

What I eventually did however was to get a dumb phone that can do a wifi hotspot, and still carried my smartphone but without simcard and net access, and powered off. When I really needed to get a taxi or look up a way home when I overslept drunk on public transport and ended up who knows where, I could always just fire up hotspot, power on the smartphone and do stuff I needed. Cause when that happened first time, it was when I first realized how much dependent I am on smartphone and net access.

Thanks for reminding me, I just quit one of the jobs and I can afford to be more offline, so back to the dumb phone I go! Convincing my GF again that she has to text me instead of using discord will be hard, though ... Or explaining that I really cant look up the fact she wants, or call a taxi quickly...

I still have a python bot that forwarded discord messages to my own bare html website, so I can chat with her with the basic web browser of the dumb phone.

What are you going to do in the bathroom? Just stare at the wall like a caveman?

I think more people will be able to do it than folks think. I have faith in you, Admiral Patrick!

I haven't personally tried it, but I think the main thing smartphones offer is a way to get away from repetitive boredom of some activities, like riding in the subway or taking the bus.

There's still alternatives. You can bring a book or a Kindle and read a book.

I think we all got way too used to entertainment being a finger-flick away, but there's still entertainment to be had without a smartphone.

I'd like to see a resurgence of media-focused devices like iPods that are built for streaming music and TV and not much else, instead of it all crammed into one device.

I feel you in a big way, but to be totally fair: corporations becoming states has probably trended towards the better from a zoomed-out perspective, and political leaders lying all the time has probably only become more visible than ever.

The entities that were doing all the colonialism for the past several hundred years have been private companies, and they did huge amounts of slavery and genocide. Blackwater is bad, but the East India Company was worse. This is not to say that things are good now, only that they aren't like worse than they've ever been.

And I think the present day has a greater expectation of political leaders being accountable to the people they govern than most of history. Back in the days of monarchs and oligarchs, there was no mass media to tell everyone they were lying and no likely consequences for the liars even if there were.

Again, I empathize a huge amount with what you've said & I am also disappointed that the world we've created isn't better than it is. I just personally think that the above two are trending in a more optimistic direction, even if they're still objectively pretty bad.

Goddamn amen; the same exact things you expressed precisely my thoughts! It’s like I wrote your comment.

My wife just said you’re my soulmate lol.

I'm turning 45 as well. It's actually a perfect time to learn something new. My interests have changed in 25 years. I no longer climb mountains, bike 200 miles a weekend or so anything too destructive. I've taken up woodworking and just got a kiln to learn pottery. I hope in another 20 years I will be a master of both and they will keep my mind healthy.

There's a bunch of really badass people doing interesting things and discovering new things well into their 70s. The grandfather of a friend of mine picked up orientation running in his 80s - he's now the national champion of his age group.

I think more than age, what one has to overcome is the reluctancy to try new things. I think this is natural to humans at any age; the difference is that when we're young we're forced to try new things as few things are now new. The more experienced we get the easier it is to fall into old habits, and he who's not busy being born is busy dying, as Dylan said.

I already hit 50 and been in similar thoughts. It sucks just that you start thinking about it.

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Start with a checklist. Add things like, the kind of weather you would like to experience most of the year, are you more of a coastline kina person or more inland person, does it matter to you that you're near outdoor activates year round or not at all, do you desire to live in a city or a town, what hobbies are you wanting to participate in where you live next, etc, etc.

I'd go for scandiavia, if I could choose anywhere. Or Island, working for CCP is my dream job.

No question shaming!

I'm sorry for your loss. I can sympathize with you because I lost one of my best friends years ago.

From the years of counseling I've participated in, I've learned that people experience grief in different ways. There really isn't a better or right sequence to experience the loss of someone. You'll go through it as you see the need to or feel.

There are 5 Stages of Grief (though some believe that there are a total of 7.)

Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance are the most common. Again, these don't have to happen in this sequence. You might experience that you jump around as time goes on, and that's perfectly normal.

Now talking about how your possible untreated ADHD symptoms might be negatively affecting you. I have been officially diagnosed with ADHD and have experienced the loss of a best friend to suicide. One of the perks of having a ADHD brain, is that you can think about a large number of things in a given moment. But this can make you feel totally stuck and overwhelmed if you're going through grief. The best things to do I found during my experience and some advice from trusted people, was to allow for myself to spend time to process what had happened. It's important to reach out to others to talk about how you feel or how you're doing. Remember that you're not alone in experiencing grief of the death of a friend. Reach out to someone that you can trust that is going through the same event as you. This can help you feel like you're not alone in your experience of grief, struggle(s), loneliness, etc.

It helped me very much to talk to a counselor that I knew and could feel comfortable sharing these deeper feelings and events with. If you can't find a counselor, seek out someone close to you that would be willing and able to listen, support you and suggest options to help you through the process of going through grief.

Feel free to message me if you have a need to talk. I don't mind talking about the harder things in life most often. And last but not least... This Too Shall Pass.

Buying individual stocks is a fools game for non-UHNI (poor) people. Keep your more-or-less passive funds investments, like low-fee mutual funds and index funds.

If you want more retirement money, it's far better to spend the time to in yourself (skill upgrading/job upgrading) than it is to worry about trying to bet on individual investments. If you're putting away 10% of your income per year into your retirement savings, you can double your retirement savings by increasing your job salary by 10% and then just putting all of the extra away too. Getting a 10% increase in your salary is a lot easier than picking a stock or stocks that will going to go up twice as much as the overall market.