Being on the spectrum and navigating office politics can be a nightmare. I'm not sure why people want everything to be "nice." Now I'm dealing with the opposite problem though. I need to set boundaries and be very opinionated. I've spent 10 years ish dialing it back and now I need to dial it back up.
thisisnotgoingwell
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I'm sure if younger people were given a reason to give a shit they'd come out and vote. Even the candidates that are supposed to be more relatable to younger voters(Dems) have tone deaf talking points that revolve around the stock market, unemployment, gas prices, and inflation, none of which are an accurate metric that would define economic opportunity for the youth. Kind of a self fulfilling prophecy.
Basically PH and other xxx sites need you to verify your identity by uploading your ID. It's what should be unconstitutional and a violation of privacy.
I know it's fun to complain/rant about users, but to most people, computers are just a tool. You and I would probably agree that a good tradesman learns his tools intimately, but that's because our jobs are mechanically focused, so it's a requirement. People who work jobs like accountant can maybe be bothered to learn one application well and that's really due to a lack of training or education, you can't expect people to learn secondary skills unless they're led. I've been able to train the worst of users into people that can troubleshoot their own issues, though there are always users that say "idk, you're the one who needs to fix it" because in their minds we're impeding their progress. But most of the time users don't want to call helpdesk either if they can avoid it.
It's always a good idea to practice your soft skills with difficult customers and be compassionate because they don't go away the more you climb the ladder, you just have to deal with them less frequently. Something that someone once told me many 10+ years ago when I was starting my career was that were it not for the users/customers, we wouldn't have a job to complain about.
Rise against was kind of my introduction to protest rock before I got into my long term love interest prog rock. As a young adult it was powerful to hear songs talk about socioeconomic issues so openly. I still enjoy listening to them and while growing up they inspired me to be a part of activist efforts, especially after learning/reading about Aaron Swartz. I wish the world felt like something that could be changed, but instead it feels like something that changes you. Best you can do is offer a helping hand and be there for those you care about and occasionally offer a helping hand to strangers when you're able to.
Sometimes I listen to them while ironically working for a megacorporation
... Huh? Any source for this outlandish claim? Asking because I've been an engineer who facilitates cell tower backhaul for mobile and private cell towers and that sounds outrageously false. You do have to certify that the channels/bands are in spec and that they don't exceed certain power limits with the FCC but that's simply because they're the regulatory body and certainly doesn't mean the government gets free services
I mean I kind of see your point but calling those results AI is not accurate unless you're just calling any kind of data collation/wrangling or even just basic programming logic "AI". What Google is doing is taking the number of times a game is mentioned in the pages that are in the gaming category and trying to spoon feed you what it thinks you want. But that isn't AI. the point of the person you were replying to is that it wasn't as if he had intended to perform a Google search and was misled, you have to go to Google bard or chatgpt or whatever and prompt it, meaning it's on you if you're a professional who's going to cite unverified word salad. The YouTube stuff is pretty obvious, it's a part of their platform. What was done has nothing to do with web searches.
Olive garden is always a great experience for me. Never had the impression that the food was microwaved. Probably best not to pay a meme that much attention
I had to learn a few years ago how to say no. It came after spending years trying to please everyone and always having to come up with excuses for coming up short while feeling like all I did was disappoint people.
When I met my wife, she was the same. She'd work horrible hours, like closing down a restaurant at 3am and then being there at 9am with about 4 hours of sleep. She'd wake up late, apologize profusely to her boss and drive insanely fast to work. She also had a hard time being at important events like birthdays because "they wouldn't let me have the day off"
I taught her, most things in life require little explanation. Instead of saying "can I please have x day off, I need to yadayada"... Say "I'm letting you know ahead of time, I won't be unavailable on x date." Nothing further. And if they ask why, simply rephrase "like I said, I won't be available." Or "I have something to take care of." It's incredibly uncomfortable for them to press on further but if for some reason they do you can refuse to answer by changing the topic or by ignoring them.
Same with things like being tardy. If you're already late, then be late. Have your breakfast, get dressed, drive safely. No need to make a bad day worse. When you call to let your boss know you'll be late, same thing. Maybe offer a small apology, but no excuses. "Hey, my apologies, I'm running late. I'll be there in 30 minutes or so." If they say "omg no you can't be late today how could you do this to me" keep your cool, "I'll be there as soon as I can."
There's a book called the power of no which I partially read. Highly recommend it. https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/18595404
Here's the description
... a well-placed ‘no’ will not only save you time and trouble—it will save your life.
“Takes a fresh approach to becoming masterful at using ‘no’ to say ‘yes’ to life.” —Cheryl Richardson, author of The Art of Extreme Self-Care
“No” is sometimes the hardest word to say. It’s also the most necessary.
How many times have you heard yourself saying yes to the wrong things—overwhelming requests, bad relationships, time-consuming obligations? How often have you wished you could summon the power to turn them down?
Drawing on their own stories, as well as feedback from their readers and students, authors James Altucher and Claudia Azula Altucher clearly show that you have the right to say
• To anything that is hurting you. • To standards that no longer serve you. • To people who drain you of your creativity and expression. • To beliefs that are not true to the real you.
It’s one thing to say “No,” the authors explain. It’s another thing to have the Power of No. When you do, you will have a stronger sense of what is good for you and the people around you, and you will have a deeper understanding of who you are. Ultimately, you’ll be freed to say a truly powerful “Yes” in your life—one that opens the door to opportunities, abundance, and love.
I mean I sympathize with OP but at the end of the day he chose to go to the cruise. Next time he'll have the willpower to say no. But at the current moment it sounds like he's being an angsty teenager. You're already there, why not make the most of it?
Not everything in life needs to be sugarcoated. The comment you replied to simply addressed the reality of his current situation. It wasn't advice for the rest of his life. I think you're projecting a bit here.
"do the needful" feels like you're being asked to step up and honor your responsibilities. BE A MAN. PAY THE BILLS. DO THE NEEDFUL.