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Why is that guy not wearing shoes?
If you had 13 toes your feet would be hot too.
What you mean and why 12 peoples upvoted it ? Any secret meaning that match with my question ?
It is just funny. Don't kiss strangers from behind.. or at all probably. Unless there is consent. Then have at it.
But mostly no, don't kiss strangers.
That's why I miss the 70s. You could kiss strangers and nobody cared.
Just absurd humor. Don't mind it, memes in a secondary language are difficult.
Do you have them locked in a trunk somewhere?
Step 1: let them out
I didn't locked anybody in any trunk. But i need to know what is friendship and how that feeling begins.
Friendship is, fundamentally, liking somebody and they like you and you enjoy spending time together, supporting and communicating with each other.
Importantly:
you don't get to be in any sort of genuine relationship with someone else without their consent and mutual interest.
If you like them and they do not like you, that's the end of it.
As for how it begins, it drives on every situation: maybe you saw someone play pool well and you'd like to know how the game works from their perspective.
Maybe you had a significant conversation with an acquaintance of ten years that drew the two of you closer together.
Maybe you saw someone's jacket and thought "what a cool jacket.". The initial interest can come from anywhere.
First, you need do human activity such as ingest nutrient enriched bread product. While consuming said item, while mouth cavity is largely clear you use tooth stones and mouth muscle to engage another human with guttural mouth noises. If they are pleasing, other human will engage. Continue this process until best friend received.
Zuckerberg?
I read this as Zoidberg..
There's no one answer that's true for everyone. It's like asking how you can be the perfect spouse for someone: it depends on what the person is looking for.
But there are some norms and generalities. Some attributes that most people want from a friend are:
- They can trust you because you keep their confidence, you don't make fun of them when they make mistakes, and are otherwise sensitive to their feelings.
- You act with their best interests, at least sometimes even over your own.
- You're candid with them, but not hurtful.
- You're interested in some of the same things
- You enjoy each other's company
Note that the are exceptions to all of these. Some people want to hang out with someone they feel superior to. Some people gravitate to people who reinforce their own inferiorities. Etc.
I met many peoples in my life and triend to become friend. But i failed 😅. But now in this just few days i feel like i find something like a friend. He heals me and taking away my loneliness and sadness away from me. He spends time for me also he never talks anything wrong or never making fun of my drawbacks. I need to be a good friend for him. Thats why am asking.
And you're right everyone have different ways to be a good friend. And thanks for sharing 😊
Just think of all the things that they do to make you happy, and be sure to do the same for them!
Do similar things with a similar meaning, don't just do what they do. They might like buying small gifts, but receiving small gifts might make them feel guilty.
I guess my advice is you're wanting to be a friend to someone in particular is to really listen to them. When they tell you about something going on in their life, try to imagine what is like for them - what it would be like for you. Feed that back to them ("Wow, I'd be nervous if that was me, were you nervous?" and that kind of thing). Be genuinely interested in what's going on with them.
I'm glad you found someone who seems to care about you. Good luck.
Thanks
You sound like a good, genuine person. That’s a great trait to have in a friend. One thing friends often share is a common interest in activities, be it food, cooking, hunting for mushrooms, going to museums, anything that you enjoy.
He sounds like a good, genuine robot person
It happens naturally or not at all.
It's hard and may not happen. As Forrest Gump said:
Bubba was my best good friend. And even I know that ain't something you can find just around the corner.
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get a dog
I will get one when I am away from my parents. They don't like pets.
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This is the most wholesome thing I've read today, and I'm more realizing how much I needed it. Thank you!
Wow... my question is just helping others too...
Happy to hear 🥰
Be the friend that they need, and don't try to make them into the friend that you want.
But also, be careful... don't get used by someone who doesn't actually care about you.
Ok, I will keep that in mind. In my life, I always ignored many because they were not right for me.
You'd be surprised how much more excellent your friendships become from being a patient, attentive, and engaged listener. Let them say exactly what they mean to say with no interruptions. Don't make suggestions or opinions. Let them be heard, and occasionally comment on what they're saying so that they know you're listening.
I find this to be kind of a rare thing in a lot of people. Most folks just wait for you to finish so that they can say what they want to say. Simply listening is a great way to get to know someone better and show that you care.
My friend has a lot to say to me.
Best friends don't bail each other out of prison.
Best friends get arrested together.
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Can't force it. Has to happen randomly on its own through circumstance.