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[–] [email protected] 54 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (9 children)

Why isn't it just common practice to just use "they" instead the entirely cumbersome "he/her"?

Like it's just so much easier to type out and say, and it's just better to use regardless.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 month ago (3 children)

The fun part is that you'll have people complaining about it either way!

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 month ago

Yea, but the people who complain about "they" are assholes so we can safely ignore them.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 month ago

Not only is it more readable and aesthetically-pleasing, singular "they" is more inclusive of people outside the gender binary!

[–] faultypidgeon 6 points 1 month ago

Love how the top comment doesn't even answer the question. But TIL, I guess. If I had known this option existed, I probably would have used it. I'm going to play the "not a native english speaker"-card on this one.

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[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Darude Sandstorm.

Not even joking

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago

You can always use the recorder cover to see if they make a comment about liking the real version.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 month ago (1 children)

None!

There should be no guilty pleasures in music. Especially dating. It's much more attractive to have a wide range of tastes and be comfortable with what you like.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

If I have to hate a reasonably decent pop rock band to earn points I shouldn't even be on the date.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

I don't have a baseline when it comes to pop songs. Also, I have never been on a date anyways. So, it's all good.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 month ago

Doesn't exist. I tell them what I like. If they can't handle the truth then it wouldn't work anyway.

I also don't have guilty pleasures. I enjoy things.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 month ago

Obviously the ska.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

My workout playlist consists of anime openings and Power Metal. I don't watch anime nor play D&D, but I like the fast-paced and fantasy/superhero style.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

So I put my hands up. They're playin' my song, the butterflies fly away. I'm noddin' my head like, yeah. Movin' my hips like, yeah. I got my hands up, they're playin' my song. They know I'm gonna be okay. Yeah, it's a party in the U.S.A. Yeah, it's a party in the U.S.A.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (2 children)

ive seen barry manilow in concert 4 times

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I have a philosophy to always expose my craziest parts cuz if they dont like them it eventually wont work anyway so id play cupcakke x mario kart remixes for them

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago

I appreciate this and will do the same. 10 hours of They're Taking the Hobbits to Isengard. Anyone who can make it at least 3 hours and is singing along instead of stabbing me is a go for date two.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago

Aqua and Toy Box. Dog bless the early 2000’s

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I went on a 160 mile bike ride and wound up listening to the same Tove Lo album on repeat the entire time, not because it was too much of a hassle to change up the music or anything

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Was it Queen of the Clouds? I like Lady Wood and Blue Lips too, but QOTC is just such a "leave it on, no need to skip any tracks" album for me. Such a vibe.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It's your first date and she/he asks what type of music you like. What's the guilty pleasure you won't tell her/him about?

I love music and hate but being myself (AuADHD weeeee) so, they're going to hear an honest answer. If they're not down with my love of folk punk and what I classify as "shitty punk rock" (you just the kind - overly-compressed, terribly mixed, played by people who barely know how to tune a guitar), well, that's fair enough. Same as if they aren't up for my, AuADHD - neurodivergence can be a bit to handle.

[–] joshcodes 4 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I see a potential fellow days n daze enjoyer...?

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago

Drum n bass

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago

Taylor swift :p

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I will gladly tell them how much I like Weird Al.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (2 children)

That's not really the question, though

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago

Steely Dan. The worst part would be I won't stop talking about the drum solo in Aja.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

Carmeldansen in its original form is legitimately a good song and I actually love the whole album its from.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

depends, but I usually don't reference more of the occasional things I listen to , less of the electronic/breakcore or experimental/obviously avant garde (less Secret chiefs 3, more crossfire duo )

EDIT : my wife doesn't mind the tech death/grindcore, she does mind the free jazz/avant garde classical

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago (5 children)
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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

I have some Brittany Spears and Backstreet Boys on my gym mix.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I'd rather listen to Raditude than Pinkerton...

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

I see why. I think that sentence just broke my brain a little.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

Just casually admitting crimes in public.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

I love singing Kalinika... I'd probably avoid mentioning it because Russia is an authoritarian state that likely wouldn't approve of me dating the person I'm talking to. Also, the Russian government sucks in like a billion other ways.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Hyperpop. I'm a Christian and only date other Christians and many of those songs have pretty lewd lyrics.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Spinal Meningitis by Ween.

On a lighter note, I loves me some SeΓ±or Coconut.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

2000 - 2010's indie rock/pop like the kooks, mando diao, vampire weekend, etc

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

Metro Station - Shake It

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

Kpop. But to be fair, I listen to a wide variety of genres, from prog rock to metal, r&b, EDM, and film scores.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

I'm going to save the Powerwolf and Lord of the Lost until maybe the third date...

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