Tangential, but my wife is nonbinary and I still call them my wife. They're okay with it. And I don't mean to be lewd, but in bed they like to be called Daddy instead of Mommy. My point is that it's probably a case by case thing without a universal and some nonbinary folks don't mind some gendered terms. It might even be context based.
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Interesting! Thank you for sharing.
My niece is non-binary and we run into this issue. Now, I just ask people who identify as non-binary. “When there isn’t a good non-binary term to use, do you prefer me to use male or female words?”
So far, the non-binary people I’ve asked seem to appreciate the question.
I'm sure they do.
I think the gender inclusive term for niece and nephew is "nibling", which sounds like a Pokemon!
My nephew has a dad and a mawpa, but there are lots of options out there. It's wise to choose syllable sounds that babies can easily pronounce.
The words "mom" and "dad" are both derived from baby babble, syllables babies have an easy time making.
I therefore suggest that an enby parent should be a child's wawa
I like this. It would be awesome to be named after a gas station chain.
Show some respect.
It's a convenience store/deli/sometimes gas station, and it has the best Thanksgiving sandwich you can order, pay for, and pick up without a single word to a human (and usually in less than 5 minutes).
My humblest apologies!
i am not sure, but what i think i read somewhere is "ren" (as in pa"ren"t), so you would go like my ren dropped me to school or something.
That sounds cool too.
“Commander”
Closest Ancestor
Gene Giver
Obviously it combines Mother and Father, or: M'F'er
🤭
Isn't that technically all biological dads?
The existence of the term "biological dad" implies the existence of an "artificial dad"
I would say that an artificial dad is the partner of a married single mom.
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My friend's father transitioned to a woman but she kept calling her "Dad". Not to invalidate her identity just that they were both happy to continue describing their relationship with that term.
I read the title as a programming question at first...
Hah!
Hello 4D 6F 6D 6D 79
Lil sis got a memory leak
CVE-2025-j - Data leak due to uninitialized variable for children of non-binary parents
Children referring to non-binary parents may use uninitialized variable in speech when referring to the parent. This can expose personal information when referring to the non-binary parent. All children who are users of the English language are potentially vulnerable. Children who already have a preferred title for their parent are unaffected. To mitigate this the parent and child should discuss what preferred title the child should use.
Due to the extreme widespread usage of the English language and the difficulty with patching, there is unlikely to be a comprehensive fix for this soon.
"Honored Ancestor" and "Blessed Forebear" are always appropriate.
Much respectful. So parent.
Nonbinary household with conservative upbringing. That would certainly blow the mind of certain people.
"Excuse me, honored ancestor, I need to defecate" - Timmy, 5 years old
One of my friends has a mom and a nom. Works well enough.
Short for mother and nother?
Love it.
my son calls me baba. i've met other enby parents that use the same term. i originally heard it on blues clues lol
Baba Is You!
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I'm not nonbinary but my son just calls me Michael.
It's short for Michaelael.
Very individualized as per need. Non-binary is an umbrella term for a whole bunch of different situations so what feels right is going to be very different for someone who feels like say a mix of masculine and feminine versus someone who has dysphoric reactions to any and all gender markers. It's going to be different for someone whose identity is more static than say someone who fluidly bounces between extremes.
If you know someone who is non-binary that's essentially just the tip of the iceberg of a whole discussion about how they personally interact with their body or the culture of gender. A lot of people seem to treat it as a full stop third category which can actually be a disservice to a non-binary person because it oftentimes just leads to a lot of new assumptions and frames out some of the ways they could be better treated than just as automatically genderless. I've heard of mixes of Mom/Dad for bigender people, just Mom or Dad for trans masc/femme folk, Completely new words that do not have cultural baggage, or just "my parent". It's not a one size fits all situation.
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They use a mixture of "MOM" and "DAD" and call them "MAD".
Just a silly joke. I have no opinion.
No you have it backwards, it's DOM. As in, "I was bad so my dom had to punish me."
No clearly it's MOD. "I was bad to my mod timed me out"
Well that can't be because I call my nonbinary wife Daddy!
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I’d imagine that this is something that varies from family to family.
If I were a nonbinary parent, I’d definitely go with “elder”.
"Your Highness"
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