I have ADHD. Anyone telling you it is a super power is either lying or has a drastically different experience with it than I do.
this post was submitted on 27 Nov 2024
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Its a super power in battle/reaction situations. In all aplicable areas of modern age, its a nightmare.
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Not a common ability but some people have photographic memory.
I can't remember shit. Photographic memory would be life changing.
Your wish has been granted! You will now keenly remember old photographs π
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As someone with ADHD. My brain remembering things would be a game changer.
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Maintain eye contact.
Shit makes me so uncomfortable. Look at me all you want, that's fine. I'm going to look at that plant.
If you want to look at that plant, I'll look at you, but you can't have both.
Unless we both look at the plant. That's fine too.
Out of curiosity, how does it feel for you to look at someoneβs nose while they are looking in your eyes?
Having the ability to see images in my mind. Sounds like a cool ability, not sure if it would be a curse though.
Sounds like you have aphantasia. Wish more research was done on it, I only learned about it when I was randomly talking with my friends and one of them said they couldn't imagine an image.
I'm stuck with the ability to imagine complete scenes but not be able to draw what I imagine haha
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Sleep instantly and without interruption
What up insomnia gang? Coming to you love from the bed at 6 AM. Too late to fall back asleep, too early to get up.
i want to be able to make easy fun conversation
To do things at the proper time, and not procrastinate.
I truly don't know how some people work if not in a manic state for 10 hrs straight because you have a bunch of stuff due at the same time
I guess I could spread out the work, but sometimes I'm passively thinking of the best way to tackle it and other times it's a task I don't like doing.
Executive functioning.
Went here to say that. Imagine not having an absolute obsession, want to do the thing, but not thinking about it all day. You just... do it. Couldn't be me. I wish I could have little side projects instead of just... comtemplating the idea of doing it for fucking years.
Pretending to give a shit when I don't
Don't compare your blooper reel with other people's highlights.
Also, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie split up about twenty years ago and that relationship is still creating drama
Do you mean Pitt and Jennifer Aniston? The Brangelina split was in 2019.
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I wish I could actually listen to what is being said to me for more than 5 minutes. Instead of having my attention drift off and me starting to daydream about something the other said.
I wish I could have a baseline functional understanding of human interaction & relationships.
As someone who transitioned from a deeply introverted anxious young adult with a persistent stammer, to a relatively outgoing person who is capable of clear communication, the secret is caring less and forgetting that you exist.
There are steps though to get there:
- Look at a person. De-age them back to when they were a shy or excited or inquisite toddler. That's their base model. Anything built on that is just extra wisdom or fluff or bluster.
- Talk to people like you would an innocent child, just use more grownup words.
- Cheat questions:
- "How was your day today" "what did you get up to" "hows your upcoming week looking"
- Cheat responses:
- "nice!" "well done!" "oh damn"
- Cheat moves:
- Eye contact. Look at people in the eye, then look away when describing something, then look them in the eye again.
- Nodding: Make nodding gestures as they respond to you
- Hands: Gesture with your hands when you describe something.
- Smile: You don't need to smile, but it helps. You can look away when you do it.
- Listening helps but is top-tier and isn't a requirement
- Learn to build connections through topics though. If they're talking about cats, remember your dog.
- Signal it's your turn: I suck at this and wait for gaps, which usually means I forget what I wanted to say, but you can signal in other ways
- Yes: Finger gun and a nod whilst inhaling
- No: Polite laugh and a head shake whilst exhaling
- Random: if someone won't stop, they need to be stopped. Just jump in with your crab story, who cares.
This should hopefully get you along the way to forgetting that you exist in a conversation, and it should become second nature after a while.
To be consistent on a physical level.
I play guitar and games like rocket league, things that require excellent physical dexterity, and consistency is a big factor. I struggle to repeat physical actions the same way every time. I practice lots, and I'm reasonably good at both things (imho), but I know I screw up more than most people because I can't repeat things the same way every time.
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I wish I could bang ass for longer than a minute :/
Try concentrating on your breathing.
I wish I could form intimate relationships.
To get what I want by just being cute. Like little kids or cute girls. Or to be automatically excluded from manual labor/heavy lifting for the same reason.
If you're a healthy boy, the moment you become a teenager is the moment you're just expected to be performing manual labor or other hot, sweaty activities. At least in the US π€·
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I wish it didn't take me so long to understand things that other people seem to get easily.
The ability to utilize my passion and drive to do things.
Just absorbing knowledge is starting to be a drag.
The sort of natural looking and sincere charm that someone like Robert Downey Jr. can just turn on and work the whole room at once, not that fake or smarmy shit that has people commenting that it fake after the fact.
I've worked with accounts guys who can do it, I've watched them work close up, but I be damned if I cant just naturally do that.
Ability to feel slightly deeper while watching emotional films
I would love to be able to say the most ridiculous, warped, ignorant, crazy ass shit, and have everyone else believe me to the point they are willing to fight on my behalf.
Oh wait..
To light things on fire with my mind.
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