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A lot of people have given good answers but I'll throw in an anecdote.

Growing up my dad would talk about how important it is to follow laws. Don't do drugs, don't drink and drive, etc, but even the smaller ones like don't jay-walk and never litter.

On a car ride I noticed he was going like 5 mph over the speed limit and I pointed it out. Something like "if its important to follow every law why are you breaking the speed limit".

And he responded something about how it's not an actual law but a recommended speed or something. But I kept saying it was a law and he was breaking it. He got pretty upset and finally said if I didn't drop he'd take away my Gameboy for a weekend or something.

It could've been he was just annoyed his kid wouldn't shut up but it seems like textbook cognitive dissonance that he couldn't reconcile the two ideas that every law should be followed and it's ok to break the speed limit a little and it got him upset.

"Cognitive dissonance is an uncomfortable feeling caused by holding two conflicting ideas simultaneously"

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In the field of psychology, cognitive dissonance is described as the mental disturbance people feel when they realize their cognitions and actions are inconsistent or contradictory. This may ultimately result in some change in their cognitions or actions to cause greater alignment between them so as to reduce this dissonance.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_dissonance

There's a great comic by The Oatmeal that explains it more thoroughly, and it's an amusing read.

holding two conflicting beliefs at the same time.

like you don't believe in the death penalty, but you read about a child molester and want them to die.

People eat meat and love animals. Veganism is perfectly healthy and doesn't require killing creatures just as intelligent and loving as their dogs and cats in order to have adequate and delicious nutrition.

If you disagree passionately with the above statement, like it gives you real feelings of frustration, congratulations, you are experiencing cognitive dissonance.

The thing with cognitive dissonance is also a bit more subtle than just the duality of conflicting beliefs. It can often arise from unidentified conflicts that are outside of your conscious self awareness.

One that I am familiar with is religion. I knew a whole lot about the bible and christianity growing up. From an early age I halfway knew things like how, when I looked at road cuts through bedrock, those layers hinted at deep time and held a story that wasn't well alined with my beliefs. Then there was my love of dinosaurs as a kid and that too did not mesh with my religious narrative. Each little element of conflict was present on some subconscious like level, and my life became partitioned between this narrative belief system and evidence based reality. I had lots of peripheral consequences in life due to this building conflict, but I never allowed the core issue to come to a head in an attempt to rectify the disparity until I was around 30 years old.

Cognitive dissonance can also be dangerous and is a contributing factor in many crimes and heinous acts humans commit. Alternative expressions of individuality may also have an origin in cognitive dissonance. Identification of these underlying conflicts is reflective of a person's self awareness and can help one improve one's mental health by taking productive action to resolve inner conflicts after identification.

How I've learned it is, that cognitive dissonance arises when one of your beliefs or behaviours is challenged by new information. This can make you uncomfortable, and to alleviate that, people have coping mechanisms. It's probably these coping mechanisms which cause other people to say you suffer from cognitive dissonance. There's a quite good Wikipedia article on this imo.

It's the state of mind caused by simultaneously believing two (or more) things that conflict with each other.

It refers to the stress of believing two or more mutually exclusive things at the same time.

I swear reddit had a community around news articles and such about conflicting beliefs. have not seen one in the fediverse.

Thinking “Cognitive dissonance doesn’t exist”, is one way to experience cognitive dissonance.

This could have been an internet search engine job, literally just type "define cognitive dissonance" and it will be explained. Why do we need an entire post for this??