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Most of the time when people say they have an unpopular opinion, it turns out it's actually pretty popular.

Do you have some that's really unpopular and most likely will get you downvoted?

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[–] [email protected] 455 points 1 year ago (60 children)

Fuck ALL advertisements. Yes, even "unobtrusive" ones, especially yours. If I want your shit, I will find you. If I appreciate your shit, I'll pay you for your time. If you want to connect, I'm all ears. Otherwise, fuck off capitalists, fuck off advertisers, and fuck off useful idiots who want to waste my finite lifespan in this miserable universe showing me ads.

[–] [email protected] 197 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I literally just came from another post that was talking about this.

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[–] [email protected] 60 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Unfortunately there's a lot of products that most people don't even know exist. Hell I keep finding new tools and wondering why I've been doing things the hard way for so long.

OTOH, fuck all the advertisers who use shady tactics to make sales, and especially fuck all the people who pray on the naivety of others to steal their money. I was just showing a customer an email I got the other day stating her domain hosting was past due and required immediate payment, and she asked how I knew it was a scam. Uh, hello, because ---I--- am hosting your domain and website (and this is exactly why I share this kind of stuff with people, to make them think before they blindly write a check).

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[–] [email protected] 356 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (42 children)

The average person shouldn’t be allowed to drive. It’s extremely dangerous and most people are desensitized to it and absolutely don’t take the natural responsibility towards others that comes with having the ability to kill someone with a finger twitch (or a slight lapse in attention) seriously enough. I don’t think it would be allowed if it was just invented this year.

[–] [email protected] 66 points 1 year ago (9 children)

Too many places let you drive if you do the happy path stuff right: stopping at a stop sign, changing lanes safely, etc. But the most important time of your driving is when you're about to hit a semitruck and you need to get your car out of the way, and there is no training material for this at all. People often panic and slam the brakes and aggressively turn the wheel, which is a perfect setup for understeer and losing control of your car. They are literally getting in a situation where they are about to die and they choose to greatly increase their risk due to negligence.

It's cheaper to run simulators than purchase cars and hire trainers. Get em in nasty situations and teach them how to get out of it. For real, if mom and dad can't evade sinking their freeway missile into a van full of kids, they shouldn't be able to get behind the wheel and be presented with opportunities where this might happen any time they drive.

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[–] [email protected] 309 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (44 children)

Pansexual, polysexual, and omnisexual are all microlabels and are all subsets of bisexual. You don't need more labels than gay, straight, and bi.

Edit: I forgot about asexuals. But I specifically only care about bi subsets. They're dumb, and you only need bi

[–] [email protected] 102 points 1 year ago (3 children)

And asexual

But I agree. The bi community already collectively decided we are trans and nonbinary inclusive. We don't need to further separate it out.

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[–] [email protected] 257 points 1 year ago (17 children)

All religions should be heavily taxed. NO EXCEPTIONS!!

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[–] [email protected] 223 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (44 children)

Being fat is a choice the vast majority of the time, and I have a huge bias against big people.

I used to be fat (250ish lbs (110ish kg) at 5'8"ish (172ish cm)), and as much as I would like to blame my shit on anything else, the person feeding me, the person sitting at the computer for hours, the person actively avoiding all physical activity was me and no one else. After I got diagnosed with some weight related shit, I turned my entire life upside down, am at a much healthier 150 lbs (68ish kg), and feel so much better, both physically and mentally.

I'm aware of my bias, and I make every active effort to counter it in my actual dealings with bigger people. Especially because there are certain circumstances, however rarely, where it may not actually be their fault. But I'd be lying if I said my initial impression was anything except "God, what a lazy, fat fuck."

Edit: Added metric units

[–] [email protected] 77 points 1 year ago (6 children)

I used to be fat, and when I watch morbidly obese people talk about how much they love food and it makes them happy and makes them feel better that is 100% me. Food is absolutely an addiction for some people, including me. Thankfully I have it under control to be at a healthy weight and lose weight when I need to, but some of these people have absolutely tragic childhoods or life experiences and I don't blame them at all for coping in that way. I could 100% see myself in that position if I had been through what they have been through.

However, those people are self aware that they are unhealthy. The people I can't stand are the "healthy at every size" fat acceptance people. Healthy at every size was SUPPOSED to be that you can make positive health focused changes at any size and there is no point of no return. But it got twisted into I can be morbidly obese and I am still 100% healthy forever. And they even make people feel bad for wanting to lose weight, even if it's for health reasons. Those people are trash and fall on the same level as antivax people IMO.

Everyone deserves to be treated with respect, until you start spewing harmful bullshit and then I will judge you as much as I want.

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[–] [email protected] 207 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (28 children)

We don't need more pronouns. We need less of them.

In my native language there is no even he/she pronouns. The word is β€œhΓ€n” and it’s gender neutral. You can be male, female, FTM, MTF, non-binary or what ever and you’re still called β€œhΓ€n”. You can identify as anything you like and "hΓ€n" already includes you.

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[–] [email protected] 192 points 1 year ago (9 children)

Most people shouldn't be parents.

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[–] [email protected] 171 points 1 year ago (14 children)

After an entity reaches an annual cap (say $5m profit), 95c of every dollar should be taxed

[–] [email protected] 55 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Give em a "you won capitalism!" Participation trophy πŸ† too.

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[–] [email protected] 156 points 1 year ago (14 children)

Dogs were hardwired by selective breeding to worship their owners. Not long ago they at least were loyal companions. You got one off the streets, fed it leftovers, washed it with a hose, it lived in the yard, and it was VERY happy and proud of doing its job. Some breeds now were bred into painful disabling deformities just to look "cute", and they became hysterical neurotic yapping fashion accessories. Useless high maintenance toys people store in small cages ("oh, but my child loves his cage") when they don't need hardwired unconditional lopsided "love" to feed their narcissism.

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[–] [email protected] 127 points 1 year ago (21 children)
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[–] [email protected] 127 points 1 year ago (12 children)

Most conservatives, however deeply red, are not intentionally hateful and are usually open to rational discussion. People just don't know how to have rational discussions nowadays and the few times they do, they don't know how to think like somebody else and put things in a way they can understand.

People nowadays think because a point convinced them, it should convince everybody else and anybody who's not convinced by it is just being willfully ignorant. The truth is we all process things differently and some people need to hear totally different arguments to understand, often put in ways that wouldn't convince you if you heard it.

It's hard to understand other people and I feel like the majority of people have given up trying in favor of assuming everybody who disagrees with you knows their wrong and refuses to admit it.

[–] [email protected] 55 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If it wasn't for their response to the pandemic, I might be inclined to agree with you.

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[–] [email protected] 109 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (6 children)

We have blown the concept of ownership way out of proportion. No one should be able to own things they have absolutely no connection to, like investment firms owning companies they don't work for, houses they don't live in or land they've never been to.

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[–] [email protected] 99 points 1 year ago (11 children)

People who are strongly against nuclear power are ignorant of the actual safety statistics and are harming our ability to sustainably transition off fossil fuels and into renewables.

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[–] [email protected] 98 points 1 year ago (7 children)

Religion is nothing more then social engineering on a grand scale.

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[–] [email protected] 89 points 1 year ago (11 children)

It is really hard to have an unpopular opinion unless you are mentally deranged/a conspiracy theorist.

As evidenced by the comments under this very post. Even when trying most people can't come up with an actually unpopular opinion.

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[–] [email protected] 84 points 1 year ago (16 children)

Generally, social justice is at best, a distraction from real issues, albeit with very good intentions.

(We talk about human dignity, representation in film etc but not say, the fact most of our stuff is made by children who occasionally burn to death making it. If I were one of the billionaires running things, I would be overjoyed that people were so distracted about what a comedian said versus how our entire economic model is structured.)

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[–] [email protected] 83 points 1 year ago (19 children)

Lemmy.world holding such a prevalent place in the Lemmy/Kbin part of the Fediverse makes it a major single point of failure.

They should still be the newcomers instance, but communities and users should migrate to other instances to increase the resilience of the Fediverse.

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[–] [email protected] 83 points 1 year ago (30 children)

Not having kids because of climate change is stupid. You are leaving the world in the hands of people who care less than you.

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[–] [email protected] 73 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Lemmy needs "sort by controversial" for entertainment purposes.

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[–] [email protected] 72 points 1 year ago (14 children)

USA is an oligarchy. I can imagine americans disagree. But perhaps not lemmies.

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[–] [email protected] 65 points 1 year ago (46 children)

The worst maker mistake humanity has ever made was not killing every nazi after ww2.

I've gotten some nasty responses to that one lol

But I'm fucking right

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[–] [email protected] 65 points 1 year ago (13 children)

I find it insane that the same people who are anti-fossil fuel and want only green energy is also anti-nuclear power. I also want fossil fuels gone, but nuclear is the only way we are able to get to where we need to.

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[–] [email protected] 65 points 1 year ago (4 children)

the military is a cult that tricks children into dying for the wealth of the owner class. they tell you you're defending "freedom" but you're defending the gravest enemies of freedom that currently exist.

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[–] [email protected] 64 points 1 year ago (12 children)

I LOVE banana flavored stuff. When I say this, people will often say "even banana flavored Laffy Taffy?". Yes, that's the best flavor and it's not even close.

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[–] [email protected] 63 points 1 year ago (18 children)

Owning a second home should be illegal.

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[–] [email protected] 62 points 1 year ago (2 children)

We've been living in a dystopia for a very long time now, we're just becoming more aware to it.

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[–] [email protected] 61 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (9 children)

It is already legal to have a sexual relationship with multiple partners at the same time. Bigamy should be legalised. That it isn't, is a result of entrenched bigotry and religious prudery.

If you're using God as a proper noun, capitalise it. Not capitalising it is potentially confusing. Eg. There are numerous gods. Zeus is a god and God is a god.

It is likely too late to avert climate apocalypse. Don't have kids and you've done far more than most to prevent climate change. (This doesn't mean we shouldn't try to prevent it.)

A lot of society's ills are attributable to arseholes not getting punched in the face enough. This includes the fact that we can't make it legal to punch arseholes in the face, because arseholes would abuse that right to punch people who don't deserve it in the face.

America has become so fat, that most Americans have a skewed perception of what it means to be obese.

Most sports are stupid. Michael Phelps can swim 6 mph. Fish can swim 10x faster than that. Fuck that. I want to watch a tiger chase Trump through a maze.

The already high male suicide rate is severely underestimated. A lot of male risk taking behaviour, including car/bike related accidents, is suicidal in nature.

In practice identity based politics is often used to divide and conquer and distract people from their true interests. Class consciousness is more important. You have more in common with your colleagues, than you do with Beyonce or Joe Rogan, just because they happen to have the same skin colour and/or genitals as you.

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[–] [email protected] 61 points 1 year ago (13 children)

There's no ethical way to kill someone who doesn't want to die. This applies to more than just humans.

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[–] [email protected] 60 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I don't want mass-adoption of Lemmy by more Reddit users (said a former Reddit lurker who likes it here and actually participates because it's awesome at this stage).

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[–] [email protected] 58 points 1 year ago (14 children)

Reddit is gonna be just fine and the shade we like to throw around here isn't even a blip on their radar

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[–] [email protected] 58 points 1 year ago (11 children)

Assisted suicide is good for society and if legalised would help fix my countries broken healthcare system

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[–] [email protected] 57 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Here’s an opinion that’s actually unpopular rather than simply controversial: domestic flights in the UK other than to Northern Ireland (which isn’t on the same island so fair enough) should be forbidden on the grounds their contribution to climate change cannot be justified.

Instead we should renationalise the railways by letting the franchises expire without renewing them and expand their capacity as far as we can. Instead of pissing around with HS2 we fuck the NIMBYs over with an Act of Parliament which they can’t swat away or delay and extend it all the way up to Scotland.

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[–] [email protected] 56 points 1 year ago (14 children)

Eugenics sounds really cool. Not the mandatory sterilisation style, but breeding superhumans? Don't pretend that wouldn't be cool.

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[–] [email protected] 56 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (17 children)

Bernie would have won had he not been blatantly cheated in the 2016 DNC primary. We’d be in a MUCH different timeline had he won.

Edit: Corbyn was done dirty in the UK too.

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[–] [email protected] 55 points 1 year ago (5 children)

The Beatles were overrated.

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[–] [email protected] 54 points 1 year ago (12 children)

No word is inherently bad, it's all about what you mean and how you use it. Most people have a no-tolerance with a few words though.

For example, all words would be ok in educational purposes.

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[–] [email protected] 50 points 1 year ago (9 children)

Blaming slow drivers for your dangerous driving to pass them immediately and dangerously has the same energy as a rapist blaming what the victim was wearing: The other person made me do it. I have no agency over my own reactions.

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[–] [email protected] 48 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Movies and TV are boring. In the past two decades, there's been a small handful of stuff that's watchable, but most of the media is like, painfully boring.

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