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My girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me on Sunday, she’s the love of my life (have known each other far longer than 2 years). We have a child together, I don’t know what to do about it.
I’m trying to talk to her and discuss how we can work through it, I don’t know if it’s going to work.
Keep your fingers crossed for me I guess?
I also haven’t eaten or slept properly since, I’m starving but I can’t actually put food in my mouth.
Firstly, you need to eat and sleep, you can't solve anything if you don't have the energy for it. Make it simple like some soup or chicken. Your girlfriend might need some space or time to think, be patient with her. At the very least, keep goog terms with her and agree to take care of the kid, even if you don't live together.
I’ve done all of this as best I can, but I’m struggling with the eating and sleeping. I’m doing my best though.
That sounds so tough man. You're in my thoughts, I don't know what else to say. I hope you get all the strength and happiness you need.
Sometimes things just fall apart. Do you mourn her, or do you mourn her love more?
If it's her, then I hope you guys can work something it out.
If you mourn her love, then I think you're feeling the loss of a shared future you had planned together. This hurts hard, I know, but will get better with time once you realise that you mourn the idea of her. You can and will find that with someone else, and then she will just be your ex that you have fond memories with, who you see once a week to pick up the kids, whilst you build a new future with your new partner.
It’s her I miss, beyond any doubts. I’m fighting like hell to work something out, but also trying to give her some space, it’s difficult finding the right balance between the two.