LoreSoong

I see, sorry for misinterpreting your words, reading back its obvious what you were trying to convey. Your perspective is much appreciated. Yours and everyones comments have been super productive in our converstation trying to work through this today.

Great idea, any specific suggestions? I used to watch alot of stand up but their content was very raunchy so it wasnt really her thing when id show her. We both enjoy bo burham even before he became famous. And lately weve been seeing clips of morgan jay that have had us giggling and quoting.

Normally Id say im sorry to hear about your situation, but you seem the defiant type. So i assume that would be taken as pitty or an insult. Instead id like to say that you and people like you are in my opinion the most genuine specimens of humanity your defiance in the face of adversity is truely an inspiration.

That being said, do you think its healthy to compare belly aches? I am not accusing you of doing so, but your words in this paragraph

There are people in far worse situations due to worse disability.

To me express the idea that "because others have it worse you should be grateful". This to me is obviously true, but to someone deep in depression or any other dark place in their life could easily be interpreted as, "suck it up". So when dealing with friends and family in some sort of mental spiral. I tend to heavily avoid this line of thinking. Even it is the cold truth they need. But maybe im wrong?

I don't worry about things that are outside of my capacity to change. I cannot shape people into a tenable social situation where I can be myself, so I don't worry about it at all.

This is probably the most helpful bit for my girlfriend (her words), but she mentioned that her social anxiety makes it impossible not to consider every single word and action of those she interacts with. How do you "deal" with not being able to change reality? I feel that ive acheived something similar, a state of neutrality towards the chaos around us. How would you go about helping someone along that path?

This is me and she cant stand it. She always says things like "how can you not care!?!". I am very much into my hobbies and itd be nice to share that with other but... meh

Great suggestion, and a place to meet people aswell. Ill see how she feels about this. Might be something we do together, Thanks!

Great question, some of them are in other states/ countries making timing a big factor. She often feels alone for days. I will say, the quality of this group is very high. Genuine people who care about eachother. But with work and school some of them simply cant be there as much as theyd like to be.

Thank you, and your thoughts are always valid and valuable even if I or anyone might disagree. The more perspectives the better imo.

She very much agreed with your last point. but has trouble understanding the need to mask in the first place. She does not consider things like "not swearing around children or grandparents" or just being sweeter to them in general to be masking. Could you maybe explain your feelings on "being a sports fan" for example (you may actually like sports). But as someone who doesnt, I have been at events and settings where it was simply the comfortable thing to be. I wasnt lying to anyone but I definitely was asking more questions and cheering for something id normally have near zero enthusiasm for. I have trouble getting my ducks in a row to express something we seem to do so naturally.

Automatics and other weapons and explosives already require heavy tax stamps and long approval processes.

I know but they were asking specifically about liability insurance. and I summed up the total cost similarly to that of a vehicle as "maintaing a registration" sorry for the confusion.

I was considering getting a 9mm for home defense in my new location. But ive also been considering less lethal devices since most violent encounters my family members (grandpa side) have had were de-escalated by simply brandishing their weapon.

I wrote this later on in the conversation. It probably seems contradictory but, Im with you man, you cannot be too careful nowadays, but I do strongly believe all of the mentioned situations (except wildlife) do not require a weapon of the caliber i was describing in reference to the liability insurance. sometimes a less lethal option would have been completely viable options. However in the case of animal attacks such as bears, dogs, wolves and coyotes. A slighly higher caliber would be necessary hence why you often see park rangers and handlers with .45/.50 on their hip.

What would you recommend for less lethal home defense? An another user suggested a shotgun with loaded with rocksalt, which has me looking into different non lethal cartridges. This seems like the best option for me and my antigun gf. Im looking for something she could wield in a worst case senarion im not around.

I already carry a quickdraw knife (cant and shouldnt carry a switch in my state) Example of the quickdraw with no springs https://youtu.be/PfIXVvwFnQo

Im liking this, but this would still require a long discussion with the lady. Ironically i used to shoot glass marbles from a paintball gun and the stopping power on those was amazing i peirced a aluminum sheet metal shed with those. I wish theyd sell something similar but it not be a war crime to hit someone with.

Dont know if youve been to the US or know anyone here personally but guns are not as prevalent as you might think. Theyre definitely "around" but id imagine many people could go their whole life without seeing one. Obviously you have states like texas where they have an open carry day, You can see people walking around with rifles and ARs. But not including police officers, and millitary personel. I just dont see them. Your paranoia is justafied tho, we definitely see the worst of humanity often enough.

I think anything that uses real amunition would probably freak her out if i showed up home with one. Air rifles are a good idea but they are slow to pressurize and the air cartridge ones dont seem to have the needed stopping power. Great suggestions tho im going to keep looking

Nice, my grandpa is a gunsmith. I met alot of really nice people through his buisness. I guess that gave me a unique perspective on this debate. Being from north east USA not many people ive spoken to have aligned with me.

Congrats on the purchases I was considering getting a 9mm for home defense in my new location. But ive also been considering less lethal devices since most violent encounters my family members (grandpa side) have had were de-escalated by simply brandishing their weapon. Also my SO is very anti-gun Id want something even shed feel safe to have around or in the worst possible case use.