When it comes to subreddits, lemmy communities, and lemmy instances, the people enforcing the rules are the same people making the rules. To borrow from legal terminology, the legislative, executive, and judicial branches are the same. Mods and admins are judge, jury, and executioner. This gives them a lot of power and allows biases in the way they enforce the rules to go ignored.
When it comes to the reddit admins, however, and sitewide bans and content removal, the people enforcing the rules are employees. They report to a boss, and have to follow guidelines already established. The content policy has already been written, and changing it is a big deal. If a ban is unjust, it can be appealed using the rules. When biases in the ways the rules are enforced happen, it's easier to undo them. And I'm not saying it's easy, but on Lemmy, it's impossible. You can't even log into your account if you're banned, how are you supposed to appeal?
Reddit as a business has a great deal more power than any fediverse instance's mod teams. But ironically, the low ranking admins have less power to make bad decisions. And that's why I've noticed a consistent pattern that Reddit is better at moderating cases that are legally clear-cut, but emotionally controversial. On Lemmy, admins follow their feelings. On Reddit, people may have a lot of feelings, but the proletariat administration intern has had feelings beaten out of them, and they more often end up following the rules.
The way Reddit operates is soulless and horrible and capitalist, but... soul is where hatred comes from. You're less likely to find that in the workings of an unfeeling machine.
Five friends pile into a station wagon on their way to LA. An hour into the journey, the person in middle back yells at the driver for being gay, because they heard gays are slow drivers. Right back and passenger seat are very concerned that this might slow down the journey, so they tell the driver to pull over and debate the issue. Six hours later, the group comes to a consensus: gay people probably aren't slow drivers, but the gay person is going to have to swap with left back just to assuage middle back's fears.
Left back (now the driver) is a vegan. Two hours later, middle back says vegans are slow drivers.