DivergentHarmonics

Uh this hurts. Please remember where we are posting here and that people might have subtle but very relevant differences in the way they empathise and communicate. Thank you.

If you want people to understand you then you have to express the you. That's what OP does. Expressing their discomfort so that others can know about it. If others don't feel comfortable around someone who is not comfortable with them in the first place, then that's exactly what they should feel. Discomfort. ... OP seems to not yet know that the people they are looking fore will be the ones who actually understand such a mode of empathic communication, and know how to be comforting.

You are damn right when you are frustrated, and you are damn right in expressing that. [moved the rest of this comment to the top level]

the Russian soldier*

Do you, by some chance, mean c/ukraine on sopuli and people cheering to the real-life gore that keeps being posted there, and users getting banned for their ethical concerns about it?

e: It can be pointed out that it's even worse here than on platforms run by single companies. With those, the admins themselves will mostly not have a stake in the company but they themselves will be employees, which in theory would enable the company to hire ehtically vetted/trained personnel. Whereas here, the admins are likely be tech people who know how to run a server but might otherwise be overwhelmed with ethical conducting, or put their own political teint onto their platform, respectively. Lemmy has been deliberately set up in such a way.

Add to that the lack of good moderation tools. Many of the issues people are complaining about are prely technical, though; what is displayed in UI and database functionality. Such things could be solved though, by actually hiring some capable software developers (takes substantial funding), or by having it done bit by bit. Would there be enough people with enough faith in Lemmy to substantially contribute

I like this one because it for once shows that the ones who do the actual killing don't take it lightly. They probably know that they will be heavily traumatised after doing such a "job".

late edit: Also interesting to see where the dehumanising starts. The directors in the bunker have it only on a screen and thus seem so remote that it appears more like a game, making them cheer the same way as if it would be a football match (notice again the contrasting behaviour of the guy flying the surveillance camera). -- It's much the same thing that happens in this very forum here. A good case study into human social dynamics.

Not OP but i just found an answer. Top loaders may have a center agitator which is there to ... agitate more -- which we don't want to do.

Any machine that is without a center agitator will be more gentle on clothes and less likely to cause shrinking due to fiber damage and consolidation. If you have a top-loading washer with a center agitator, reduce its impact on your garments by opting for a gentle or hand-wash cycle.

(from the same link that i posted in another comment)

Why does it happen? My first answer, it's dur to felting which happens mostly with sorts of wool that have a hairs with a scaled surface. Felting (when producing felt) is done by moisturing, heating and heavy agitation, so that the scales interlock at a compressed state and then stay that way.

Search turns up several ways of shrinkage though, for different types of fiber: felting, relaxation, consolidation, and contraction. Interesting to read --> Why Do Clothes Shrink in the Wash?

[x] definitely agree (i think)

see what resonates with people, and how we approach thinking about the questions

^ this! i'm always happy to learn about how others actually function.

Me:
At first, "i have an objection ..." -- but what is it?
-- So, i definitely hear a lot of things which others seem to not notice. But how would i know if this happens often; what to relate that "often" to when people do not usually talk about such things. It just happened often enough when i started talking about it, that i learned to assume that most people don't notice the fine detail.

Then the train of thought is kicked off. I think there is a difference between general sensitivity (sensing) and sensibility (perception) which are not always at a constant level. E.g. i would put it as sensitivity when i can hear the whistling of chargers and power adaptors, a ringing of keys in the pocket or the occasional high-pitched screech of a car's brake. It's due to sensibility when such sounds become disturbing or uncomfortable/painful (other peoples' chewing noises, anyone?).
-- I think this question is about sensitivity.

Single leaves falling from a nearby tree. The sound of fine rain. A woodworm making its way through the furniture. I don't know if others notice that.
As a maker of drums, when a hair got caught under the skin and it makes a tiny snare ... unbearable.

Further, the sensitivity is not just about noticing small noises but it's related to an ability to distinguish components/patterns out of a mixture of sounds as well as distinguish small nuances of sounds. I notice the different perception only when i'm avidly describing why i'm so excited about something.

Vocalists who have several different singing voices which evoke different pictures of that person.
A masterful piece of electronic music where i count 10+ layers, and that minimalist ^pkk-pkk^ rhythm it started with still stands out.
I discovered they are using binaural beats on trance music dancefloors. There's a slight difference in the bass tones when moving between the speakers. I guess it's in the theta range, literally synchronising people's brainwaves. ...

I used to be bothered by bat calls, and that's supposedly inaudible to humans.

Some species do partially chirp into the human audible range. But yeah it still requires moderately good hearing.

Societies would probably degenerate to absolute chaos. Relevant book exists: The Children of Men
film: Children of Men, 2006 (trigger alert: realistic brutality!)

Exactly, thanks.
I could also have said something about misguided patriarchic structures but if they react like that just on female promiscuity, such an effort would be wasted.
(Yes i mean to say that monogamy is an invention of male dominance cultures.)

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