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[–] [email protected] 41 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Talk about your ex. Or at least that's a pro tip that I like to hear often

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

If the ex somehow comes up in conversation, just say "we just weren't compatible and broke things off amicably, and are both better people now" and leave it at that

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

I made this mistake (had a relationship for 8 years that started when I was 16) at the time, so I had zero dating experience. The girl I had a date with thought: "ok, then this'll just be a one night stand, he's not bad looking."

More than 6 years later we're married with a daughter, dog and cat.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 year ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

So this was what the poop post was for.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Idk what you mean by β€œpoop post”, but you reminded me of a story my grandma told me about when she was a little girl. She’s from Cuba, and her parents would sometimes take her to visit some distant relatives which were basically mountain people. Like, straight up neanderthal living-in-the-wilderness type stuff.

She said that they had a β€œpoop stick”, which was like a tree branch they would use to wipe their ass after shitting. It was a community thing too, like a public toilet. Everyone in the village would share it, just rub their shitty ass on it after crapping into (I assume) a hole in the ground.

My grandma also likes to make things up to be funny, so idk how true that is.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

What if it's a really nice sturdy table and you don't want your date taking it home with them?...

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Well, I (unintentionally) called someone ugly after she removed her mask, there was no second date

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 year ago (4 children)

How do you do that unintentionally?? Did you just blurt it out? Did she remove the mask and you couldn't hold in an "eugh"? I must know!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

It went something like:

- You had never seen me without it, right?

- No, you look older

(Brief awkward silence)

- I feared you would say that

- (freezes)

Then she told me she is insecure about that, I think she is actually like 3 years older than most of her classmates and some mock her because of that.

I didn’t think she was ugly, to me I was just pointing something out, and only realized I probably insulted her until days later. And I’m pretty sure I said more stupid things, if you want iβ€˜ll try to remember.

Also, if something reads weird, my native language is not english.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Visibly and audibly throw up in your mouth after she removes the mask.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Probably something along the lines of "you look better with the mask on!"

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Fart in their general direction.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That's a sign of true love

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Unfortunately not on the first date... No.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Especially if it smells of elderberries

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I was gonna say take a dump on their bumper but yours works too

[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 year ago

Murder tends to be frowned upon.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 year ago

Using your phone constantly

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Complain about things.

Unless it's something you can keep lighthearted, and maybe make a point with in a funny way. But just bitterly bitching about something in your life is probably the worst (normal) thing you can do. That or treat service staff badly.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago

get pregnant

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

Don't inspire fear or disgust, that's the basics.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

Insist on going to Dennys and then throw a fit about the lack of vegan options at Dennys.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Come with your spouse? Or your mum?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Don't start planning a family

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Order the lobster. Or you'll have to put out

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Talk about zodiac signs for an hour. Yeah I'm looking at you Laura, fuck you and your zodiac signs. I don't care if mercury is retrograde.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Be yourself.

Or at least, be myself.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Talking about getting married and having kids

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

So when is it a good time to bring up the wife and kids when out dating?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

After years of a solid, unquestioned relationship

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Why, tho?

It is obviously weird in the first date, but I think it should be brought up pretty early in a relationship.

If they don't have the same goals or view these things remotely the same way, why invest time in a relationship? Just to have it become a problem ahead?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Not say anything.

Went on a date with a girl I thought was pretty cute, and I heard she had the hots for me. So at first I had high hopes. NGL, I like mysterious but that was too much. All I got was variations of a shrug.

I'm not proud of what I did, but I made some excuse and just left her alone. I simply couldn't stand it.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Show up naked with your dog, sit at the table and spread some peanut butter on your balls.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I had her come to my apartment and half ignored her while playing D&D online with my family. Then I took her to a wedding for free food.

We are married with 2 kids and my family told her that even if we break up she still has to visit them.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Confessing your crimes. Save it for the wedding night.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Ask me zero questions and/or not contribute much to the conversation. I want to get to know you, and I want a partner who is genuinely interested in getting to know me.

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