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Crossposted from https://lemmy.sdf.org/post/35188725

I recently meet someone and was going to ask them to describe themselves in a paragraph. I realized I wasn’t able to do it myself. I also wasn’t sure how they would react. I thought I would ask here first and see how you folks react.

I’ll define paragraph as three to four sentences.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Haha, no worries! This question wasn’t mandatory 🙂

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

Carefree, sensitive, hyperactive, curious and righteous argumentative monotheist with a complicated childhood and the adult psychological hangups that come with it (handling them has been a moderately succssful WIP). Oh, I'm a multilingual psych major who spent 5 years in the French Foreign Legion too. A bit/very arrogant at times too, according to my wife. 🤷

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

This is great!! I would like to think my response would be this specific yet, IMO, this witty too.

As long as she’s still your wife, that’s what counts 🙂

Appreciate you taking the time to respond!!!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago

If we could only love perfect beings love wouldn't exist. 😅

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I am a dog. I like to play games. I also like to eat food and hump things. Would you like to play games, eat food and hump things together?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago

If I were if fact a dog… I would consider it. However, I will need to pass. My sincerest apologies.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I am a suburban mom and business owner. I drive a comically small car. My project management style is hot pink because it is aggressive yet girly.

This is basically a full autobiography. 😉

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

Now this is fun response!! Others have commented that my question would be to “ick” for lack of better term.

Your answer was another perspective I thought of for this. Light hearted and fun. The person I met seems to have a great sense of humor.

Thank you so much for sharing!!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

It easier than describing oneself in a sentence or one word. But it might sound a little bit like an interview question if this is a first date.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago

True, true, I’m leaning toward not using that question in future conversation.

I appreciate you providing perspective. I was hoping folks from the collective would have different responses / thoughts on this.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I'm a 40 year old woman with very thick dark brown hair with very little gray, pale skin, and a round face with pronounced cheekbones and a dimple chin. My nose is rounded at the end, My eyes are hazel and large, my lips not small or big, I've never had Botox or fillers, but my skin is taken fairly good care of. My lips are downturned, so my smile is straight, I'm taller than average, and I have an hourglass shape.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

Interesting, I didn’t even think someone would do a literal description… from a physical perspective.

I already know they look like but, yeah, more context is always a good thing.

I appreciate you taking the time to respond!!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago

But, who are you?!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (2 children)

A fun writing exercise. I won't be posting what I wrote for privacy reasons, but just saying thanks for the nudge I needed to introspect after a really weird week.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

Glad I could help nudge you along this week!

Thank you for responding!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Is Gradually Adjusting your first/last name? Privacy in a pseudonymous discussion board is kinda guaranteed already! 😅

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

I looked at it and felt like it was so specific that if you'd ever met me you'd know who had written it. Beyond that there was no value in sharing, so it wasn't worth the chance of being recognised.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Isn't that just an elevator pitch but a little more personal / less corperate?

I'm an imposing looking man with brown bear like features whose personality doesn't match his looks. As I often go for a more rugged lumberjack style that suits my body shape eventhough I have no clue how to hold any kind of tools and enjoy mostly things like knitting, sewing and cooking. Eventhough I look cold and unapproachable I'm quite warm, kind and cheritable. Due to being born in a developing nation to European parents and later moving back to Europe I have the ability to meet people openmindedly no matter their background.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago

Sure, it could be seen as an elevator pitch type question. Some of my thought process was to get away from one to one questions.

Meaning… I ask are you an introvert, they respond and say “how ‘bout you”? I thought (originally) this might be a different take, to allow them the opportunity to throw something out there or free form an answer. If that makes sense… I’m getting tired ha!

However, it feels more and more like this wouldn’t be a good question.

I also appreciate you providing your description. It’s always interesting to see how people see themselves versus how others see them.

Thank you so much!!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

No. I don't think I will. It's too painful.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago

☹️ I would never ask someone to do something they didn’t want to do.

I also understand that introspection can be a difficult thing. That may be why I can’t really answer this myself.

You aren’t alone.

Thank you so much sharing too, it actually brings up a point that, the person I met may not feel comfortable responding.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

I somehow described myself in two and half sentences, in this discussion. Does that count and is that long enough?

this comment was generated by Libb, the first French English-speaking AI that’s as human-looking as anything French can be. It was trained on baguettes and wine—please, say ‘cheese’ in the next 20 seconds if you don’t want for Libb to give you a real French kiss.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago

Cheese!! Sure, this counts… if you want to be an AI, who am I to say no 🙂

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

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