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Aren’t you the dude who made a bunch of posts months ago about workplace drama and all the annoying people you worked with?
7 days into your new job and you have a problem again?
I called you out for past statements being off-kilter, but… If every job has problems, maybe the problem isn’t everyone else around you…
Wow... I had a look too and you're absolutely right, it's just lots of workplace drama isn't it. You've reminded me it's often good to check someone's posting history before responding to posts like these.
Yeah, I remember a bunch of these posts as well. OP, by all means follow the advice of the people below relating to this issue, but I think you should also take an introspective look at yourself and ask how you can be a better coworker. I don’t think you’ll ever be happy until you do.
Oh man I remember those. Called ahead to the new unit to ask how busy it's going to be.
Coworker is in her early 60s on the fatter and smaller side, walks slowly, bouncing her whole body to left and right,
This stuff being the first thing that comes to your mind when you start talking about this coworker I think tells us more about you than it does about the coworker.
I'm also a bit curious how spry you imagine you're going to be when you're nearing retirement, I know a few nurses and former nurses, and one thing they all agree on is that it's a tough job and can be harder on the body than most people give it credit for. She's been in the trenches too, she's been doing what you're doing, probably longer than you have. She deserves some credit, some respect, and some empathy -- you're going to be there too, someday.
I don't know how the system works where you are, but in the systems I'm familiar with senior nurses, even ones who aren't RN, tend to have significant amounts of paperwork responsibilities and can be carrying serious consequences with what they put on that paperwork. I bet she does more paperwork than you do, and and that's a lot because I bet you have a lot too. Work is work, even if not all of it is physical. You say she's "pretending to be busy" but that's a common accusation against knowledge workers in fields that require a lot of critical thinking and organization. You have no idea what is going on in her brain at that moment, what responsibilities she's juggling and mentally organizing. That vacant stare may be trying to plan the right way to make sure a patient gets the right care they desperately need despite the mountains of bureaucracy and administration trying to prevent it, and she may have the mental tools and experience to do that in a way that none of the rest of you do. And that's why it takes her longer.
Go ahead and judge her if it makes it easier for you to get through your day. But don't you dare go and accuse her and file a complaint without a lot more substantial evidence than you shared here. Because from everything you said, I can only come to the conclusion that YTA.
On the other hand, some coworkers fucking suck and don’t do work. And the only one here who knows what OPs coworker is in this situation is going to be OP.
I've certainly worked with a lazy coworker or two, but I generally give them the benefit of the doubt until I've been there longer than a week.
Escalate to your manager. She's not performing her duties, and if she's struggles with them then her duties need to reflect that.
Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments.
Well, I'm a little weirded out by the way you prioritized information. It seems like more of a personal beef because you felt the need to describe her and the way she moves before anything else.
Normally, when someone starts out with things like that instead of actual problems, their beef is one of prejudgement rather than any actual wrongdoing. Sometimes it even means that the person complaining is looking for things to find wrong.
I can't say for sure that's the case, but it's definitely a weird way pf presenting what is supposedly professional.
With that said, you aren't describing anything that would be a violation of ethics, and what little sandbagging that she's doing may be an accommodation rather than her not doing things she's supposed to. Not sure of your location, but employers in some places legally have to grant reasonable accommodations to people with limitations, which is not something that you would be told about because it isn't something that's usually shared to someone not part of that aspect of the facility's operations.
If you feel that this isn't the case, then follow the standard chain of command for your facility and then let it go if you intend to keep working there. Doesn't really matter what facility you're in, what the job is, that's what you do.
Hell, after just a week, you don't even know that this is the norm. There could be dozens of reasons she's slow, or hanging back that are purely temporary.
Aside from that, what it looks like is that your facility doesn't have enough staff to begin with. Someone with their RN shouldn't be handling normal feeding on a regular basis, that's what NAs are for. RNs have more specialized skills, and there's less of them, it's a waste to be sitting there with one patient long enough to feed them. It's awesome that you're willing to, and I certainly wish to hell more nurses were willing to handle business when necessary, but it shouldn't be something you're doing often enough to merit being bothered when another RN doesn't.
What's in the actual job description when you were hired? A lot of places very strictly limit scope, and she may be following those limits. Or, she may be working to standard and not doing extra because she wasn't hired to in the first place. It could be that you're getting shafted by administration, or that you're doing things you aren't expected to (which is always nice, but it doesn't mean anyone else has to).
If she's performing her duties to the job description she was hired for, then there's not even an issue at all on her end.
I dunno, I'm not there, I can't tell what all is in the background, but in my time wiping asses for money, an RN even bringing trays to patients would have been very unusual because their job was to get meds ready, set up for things NAs can't do, and act as supervisors to the NAs on shift. Tbh, even in hospitals where NA presence tends to be lower, an RN wouldn't be feeding patients unless there was a very specific reason to. They've got too many other tasks they're responsible for.
Hey, I remember one of your other posts where you were asking about nursing & autism. Unfortunately, it seems like you just have to suck it up for now as she is obviously your senior.
You could bring it up with her and ask if there's some sort of give and take you could negotiate (since you seem to be doing some of the tasks she would otherwise normally perform), but I would seriously advise you to work on how you want to phrase it because you've had issues with this in the past.
I also think it's a bit judgemental of you to criticize a 60+ year-old person for being slow and fat. When you're 60 you will be slow and you may also be fat, but you'll have decades more experience.
Don't confront her directly.
Go to your supervisor, and make sure you document everything.
I'd start with not saying anything, but writing a log/journal hourly, even if it's just in a phone app that reminds you. Remember squeaky wheels get treated like they're the problem - best to have documentation on your side.
After maybe a month, then decide what your actions will be. Maybe just request shifts that happen to never coincide with this other person. Sometimes doing what you need is better than addressing the root cause.
Nursing is a little different from most kinds of work environments, but not that different.
I think there’s 2 halves to unpack here. One is her ability and the other is her attitude. If someone is getting along in their career and has trouble hustling around on their feet for 8 or 12 hours, I get it. They can move slower or take longer sitting breaks when there’s no patient in dire need. That’s why people work on teams.
But then there’s the attitude part. Are other nurses dealing with her patients on the regular? Is she ignoring call bells? Is she never making any effort to help a fellow nurse when they’re swamped? Then we have a problem.
Like you said, you’re new and it’s not the time to go in guns blazing. Your reputation doesn’t mean shit for a while now, but I don’t think that means you should just suck it up and do your job in spite of it.
I would mention it casually to your manager. Not as a complaint (see: your reputation doesn’t mean shit), but as a casual concern. “I didn’t want to say anything to X, but I’ve been noticing since I started that she seems to really struggle to deal with her patient load.” Whether you try to frame that along with “how can I help?” or something else is up to you.
The main thing you want to take away is:
These sorts of dramas play out slowly. The best thing you can do is collect information you can refer back to later in case things take a twist.
I can’t tell you how many times in my life an employee has become “a problem” in management’s eyes, but we’re starting at 0 because nobody ever complained or documented any of the issues that were going on for YEARS.
I would mention it casually to your manager.
Good advice, but I would ask around with coworkers first. It might be something like: the person in question has been given a reduced load because they're just coming back from a heart attack.