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So some of you may remember my recent trials and tribulations with my toxic boss who wanted me to fire an employee for no valid reason. Well I have been looking for a new job and have a first round interview tomorrow for an amazing job with an amazing company and I just want people to pray for me. I'm afraid it won't work out and I'm going to be stuck in my shitty hell hole job.
Edit: Thank you for the kind words and encouragement everysmurf
Okay, been a little quiet for reasons.
I've been waiting for this to go live to get back about how you can help. This is one way. https://transjustice.org.au/
Support the trans justice project. I suggest this as they seem really well organised and this project is happening now.
You could also suggest the company you work for do inclusivity training, Transgender Victoria offer what I understand to the best of this. https://tgv.org.au/training
Of course, there are many organisations you can donate to or volunteer with who support and or advocate for trans, gender diverse, non binary and intersex people. As well as the two above organisations, there is
https://www.switchboard.org.au/
All of these utilise skills from a huge range of fields so pretty much anything you can do they can use. There are more too, but these are the one's I can vouch for. Unfortunately queer orgs are low on the list of many government support initiatives so many of these organisations really do need money and or volunteers to continue their work. I volunteer a couple of afternoons a week, the odd Saturday and then a little bit every day for my role. I suggest you support these organisations as working alone can be challenging and they know what they're doing. Apart from that, keep up the anti-discriminatory language vibe here, it's a big deal for me personally to feel supported and safe here. Mental health outcomes are poor for a lot of trans people and I have to actively work on mine by only living in safe spaces. We all ultimately have to advocate for ourselves too. Some people have a lot less capacity for that than I do though and this outlet here forms part of that capacity. <3
Thanks Nath, Rusty and the whole DT family. Like, a whole lot!!! <3
EDIT< A single tear just ran down my cheek and under my chin after I posted this. I'm ok!
Oh yeah, see what I mean about the downvotes? ffs.
lmao. it's all my posts now. wow. someone is reading, well done, you have no idea about the level of persistence I'm capable of.
Have read this. I was particularly heartened by the statement on that TransJustice site:
We have been totally overwhelmed by the number of responses to our survey on experiences of anti-trans hate in Australia. We will provide more information in time but wanted to thank everyone for the support this project has received.
This backs up what I was saying: You are surrounded by people who support you.
As to the downvoter: I did make an attempt at that. The database under the hood of Lemmy is overwhelming. Basically, it contains all the federated content. If a single aussie.zone user subscribes to a community on another instance, then that content is in the database. The example posted in the other thread doesn't work for us: It shows who has upvoted/downvoted a single thread. But that's not what we want to do in your case. I need to search comment tables for posts you have been in and then cross-reference the comment_like table for postid, userid and commentid.
I'm not a Database admin by trade, I'm ok at database stuff, but this is some complicated bit of table join logic. It might be beyond me, but I haven't given up, yet.
Maybe fuck the downvote button off while you’re at it? Why do we need it in DT? Everyone defaults to sort by new anyway.
Sometimes I get imposter syndrome for being an adult. How am I doing these grown up things? Those are for the real people, not me.
On the way home tonight, I glanced at a bus stop that had one of the new gas ads - the "Australian Gas is keeping the country running" ones. Someone had added in black marker "away from its responsibilities" under the printed text.
Nice to see that the BUGA UP impulse has not died out yet.
The employment trainer is showing a YT video explaining how to make a table in Word, including how to convert the data into rows and columns.
This is very good for some people, but I want to rip my ears off, spoon out my eyes, and throw them at my monitor. My brains are melting out of my ears, I was privileged to learn how to do this in highschool in the 2000s.
Edit: JUST USE EXCEL 😭😭😭
Editedit: also not the trainers fault, Workforce gives them a curriculum to follow and cover.
One of my friends started at my workplace. We work in an open office area and because of that I bought over ear earphones. It's generally accepted that when someone is wearing them they're trying to work.
My friend keeps coming over for a chat. Like not just a short one she fully sits down next to me.
I'm on a deadline so I think I'll just be straightforward and tell her that if my headphones are on I don't want a chat. Seems reasonable but I hate having these kinds of conversations...
It's possible that she's not yet aware of the accepted rules, and needs a quick (and polite) lesson.
She's probably just happy to have a mate at work.
But yeah, distractions are shit. Good luck with this :)
Applied for some more jobs this morning, already have a few that want to interview.
I'm not getting my hopes up, just trying to improve my lot in life.
Melbcat is home from the vet! She did really well and should be feeling a lot better.
that's good to hear 💗😺
Mostly blue, with a magenta feature nail
💙💙💙💜💙
(Disclaimer: This hand only has my real nails on my thumb and pinky, the rest are fakes lol)
I is sad about the 12c forecast on Friday.
They better revise that to 13c.
e: they didn't, yet
I went to Coles to exchange money for life and I put my card in and no prompts. So I tried it again and no prompts. So I proceeded to put my pin in and the cunt beeped at me. Of course there's no attendant so I called over the top of a queue of people "scuse. Which way do I put my card in?". I get told. I try it again and it works.
I think I just confirmed to the 8 senior citz that were lining up that indeed technology does suck because they all turned to look at me.
Apparently you don't actually have to insert the card - just hold it over the screen. Then do the PIN thing if needed. That's what I do if I have to go to Coles.
As someone who has the occasional Big Mac and last week had a Whopper for the first time in years, this Guardian piece about the advert vs reality of both burgers came as no surprise to me at all. The Big Mac really is pathetic these days.
I'm reminded of that scene in Falling Down Whammyburger
Seems to be so global as well..
truly is a race to the rottom :(
E: I meant bottom but I'm going to leave that there.
I used to HATE when people gatekeep parenting. Stories of mums or dads being like "Oh you don't know what tired is you don't have to have kids". Swore I wasnt gonna do that. Who am I to say you arnt tired because you have a different experience to me? But I just had a friend try to tell me something about parenting, about the sacrifices you do or don't have to make. And I just wanted to laugh in his face. He isn't a dad. He would not have a clue the sacrifices required, or the decisions you face on the daily. I'm sure it came from the best of intentions, but it felt like a Call Of Duty player telling an Army Officer he was shooting wrong. In the end I decided to walk away, because "Bro you're not a dad you are talking completely out of your ass and its condescending AF" is usually a friendship killer.
So I think maybe we're all best off just sticking to our own lanes a bit more. There's no way for a parent to say "this is hard" in a way that isnt off-putting to non parents, and its hard for non-parents to offer advice that doesn't sound like someone who read web MD trying to advise a surgeon.
When we brought our daughter home we were told to give her 3 hourly feeds because she was a little jaundice and in my head I'm thinking "when do I sleep?" but you do it. When I went back to my doctor I asked him if I should wake her for her feed he's like "hell no". Of course it makes sense not to but no one tells you that.
BC (before child) you tend to but things off to another time because you can but when you're a parent it doesn't matter how tired you are if it's for your kid you get it done.
Empathy and understanding, without offering advice or judgement, is apparently difficult for many of the humans in our lives. Everyone has it hard, parents especially, and a childfree telling a parent (or vice versa) how to live is egregious and ridiculous.
You're a better person than I for walking away tbh, I would have lost it.
Thinking of you and your family, you're absolutely smashing it man, you are fine and good and doing amazing!
Empathy and understanding, without offering advice or judgement, is apparently difficult for many of the humans in our lives.
I think this really nails it. I honestly think that some people actually want to be genuinely supportive, but lack the skills to express it and it comes off poorly.
Effective communication and thought expression are dying skills.
I just can't upvote this enough, hard-agree.
I thought ** I ** was reasonably prepared and knew what to expect, and the reality of parenthood still kicked my arse. Still wouldn't change it for the world :D
Breakfast noodles went down a treat. Finally glad to be off intermittent fasting. I've missed breakfast so much.
Uh welcome to DT? Yes welcome to DT!
Thanks! I used to be a regular on Reddit but that place seems a bit dead now. Happy to be here 😁
Anyone else noticed retailers don't send you birthday discounts any more? Cheap cunce
Ugh. Went for an interview on Friday morning and have that sinking feeling I didn't get the job. They said they would get back to me early this week and so far i've heard nothing. Feel like if they were keen they would be reaching out by now to do reference checks etc. I actually prepped hard for this - wrote out STAR answers, verbally practiced questions and went in and gave some new angles to my work examples that were different from all my other failed interviews. Was still bloody nervous though and I think it showed in my voice - maybe that didn't sit right with them? Sigh. I seem to be getting applications into the interview stage but just can't seem to seal the deal.
Send a thank you email, thanking them for their time and consideration. Doesn't have to long or overly verbose, but it puts you back on their radar - they'll either say they're still working on the applications, or they'll politely reject you. But 'thank you' emails tend to go a long way after an interview, as it shows you respect the time of the interviewers, blah blah etc.
Keep trying, and consider any "failed" applications as interview practice. It'll be alright, friend, you got this!
I used to interview people. I started with a huge pile of resumes, and whittled it down to a list of "second look". Then that list got reduced to "Interview". I wasn't interviewing people that didn't look good for the role. If you were at that stage, and your interview went well, you had decent odds of getting hired.
I managed all this with a big spreadsheet. I made comments about the candidates after each interview so that I could remember which applicant was which.I would tell people a rough time they'd hear back (if it was "Early in the week", it'd be because I was interviewing candidates until then.
Don't give up hope yet, there are several possible reasons why you haven't heard back. Interviews for other candidates might have been moved/rescheduled. It's possible they're running late for other reasons. It's possible they've offered it to someone else. It's possible someone else turns the role down and you'll still get contacted.
It's too early to tell. But, feel proud that you got to the interview stage. They only interview the people who look good. Interviews are exhausting and take a long time (not just while you're in there with them). Even if you don't get this role, you've learned something and you're obviously doing something right.
I have already spent 8 hours on making masks and I haven't even set up the sewing machine yet. Just takes so much time to find all the components and get them ready. I have to buy the parts and fabrics. Then wash and iron the fabrics. Print and cut patterns , cut fabric, then assemble , then sew. I'll make about 60 for the seagoons and for other family. All this in readiness for the next wav of covid.
Falcon cam now has two eggs.
Oh the weather outside is frightful
Hooling around it surely is. BOM says rain and wind tomorrow too. And Friday. Let us hope they are as accurate as they are reputed to be.
But the fire is so delightful. 
Breakfast was a breakfast burrito with chorizo which I wasn't able to finish. I ordered a pink lemonade and for some reason they brought out 2.. then whenever I finished one they replaced it without asking. I drank like 3 and a half big glasses of pink lemonade because I friggin love the stuff.
Anyway here's the burrito. It's actually hours later and I'm now at IHOP with another pink lemonade lol
Oh and I went to the Pinball Hall of Fame earlier. They have just about every pinball machine I can think of. Free to enter which is rare for Vegas.. I spent a total of $3 there. I also won $350 after breakfast because I'm a winning machine, visited a dispensary and had a nice chat with the budtender there. It's a sunny 33 degrees and after IHOP I've run out of stuff to do today.
My dinner
Thai yellow curry chicken with an assortment of vegetables and brown jasmine rice. It was fantastic.
I ate half a can of baby corn during the cooking process. Little dog does not like baby corn.
Why does my spring onion have snot in it and is it harmful?
How long does something have to be in the work fridge before it's fair game? Asking because I've been staring at the same two cans of unopened soft drink for going on a month now.
Finally test drove a car I liked and looked to be completely above board. I've never driven a diesel Pajero though so I could be wrong, but my cursory dig didn't bring up anything major. Fingers crossed the mech inspection says its all good because I really really liked it!
As soon as I got back to Lygon st I started sneezing. The pollen is half the reason I go out during the day, it's vicious out there.
Seems a bat has done a particularly voluminous flyby unloading on my car overnight.
had an all hands meeting earlier today. I really wish they would disclose ahead of time if marketing are running it so I can avoid the complete waste of time circle jerk. I swear to god when they are on their death bed 40 years from now their dying works will be "not a good customer experience"
Didn't take my afternoon meds yesterday because I forgot. The tiredness just crashed over me and swallowed me up. Maybe kinda good for my brain to reset a bit. The intense dreams started again though. Back on it today! Last day of FT work and it is HECTIC and I'm flying interstate this evening for a conference that I haven't even remotely read up about in terms of the speakers. Gotta prep the house for the other person coming in to catsit while I'm away. Let's goooo
Exercises completed. The washing I did last night and forgot about due to visitors has been remembered and hung out. Children have been warned that I will be later home than usual due to having to replace broken saucepans. Mr P has been warned that a package containing basketball ring for kids will likely arrive today. Missed my bus but fuck it, I'll catch the other one and do my park and laneways walk to work. Have a lovely day all!
