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[–] [email protected] 48 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (3 children)

Probably my girlfriend's mother. Her family lives in a remote part of Y'allistan kinda country. According to my gf they used to be quite moderate and intelligent but since moving (for better land to run their family business) her mom has become very isolated and feeds off nothing but Fox/OANN and whatever shit YouTube recommends. She's become such an abortion hating, trans hating, gay hating person in only the last three or four years that even my girlfriend says she barely recognizes her sometimes.

This is my first Thanksgiving with her family after 2 years together, and depending on how it goes it might be close to the last, we're not sure.

[–] notnotmike 12 points 3 weeks ago

If you haven't already seen it, watch The Brainwashing of My Dad. It is a short documentary about this kind of experience that's worth the quick watch

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[–] [email protected] 44 points 3 weeks ago

Oog - my little brother.

He's a walking stereotype of a tech libertarian (which is to say, a shallow, bigoted, reactionary, right-wing IT guy who for some inexplicablec reason seems to think that all that's necessary to count as "libertarian" is to rail against "the woke mob.")

The first time I heard the term "mansplaining," I knew exactly what it meant, because it's his customary mode of communication. I already know that by about the third time I hear him say, " Well, what you have to understand is that..." I'm going to have to leave the room.

He likely won't bring up politics directly - not surprisingly, he's generally ignorant of both the philosophical side of it and the practical side of it. Instead, he'll bloviate about whatever the right-wing/tech media bubble is bloviating about, so essentially political issues without the complication of political context.

It's invariably awful, and it's always a matter not of if but merely of when I'm going to have to leave the room because the only alternative is going to be a messy verbal explosion. And I presume it's going to be worse than ever this year, since he'll undoubtedly want to mansplain the mindless dogma he's been fed about Trump and Musk and Ukraine and tariffs and immigrants and trans athletes and so on...

[–] [email protected] 35 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

My parents called tonight and asked if they could come on Thursday, I am NOT looking forward to seeing my hyper-christian Maga supporting white-Nationalist parents, and neither are my very sensible, LQTBQ+ supporting children and their partners, and spouses. Tomorrow, I have to call and tell them that any nonsense, or statements like the ones that were made at the last event we were at will be met by asking them to leave. Yay.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

What are the chances that they will actually be respectful do you think. Might there be a case for simply not inviting them?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I think it's kind of like a last chance situation. One last chance to be civil and behave. If they mess up they are never invoted again. But I might be wrong.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 weeks ago

Report back soldier when its over!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 weeks ago

What did they say last time, spill the tea!

[–] [email protected] 34 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm staying home this year for this exact reason.

[–] notnotmike 6 points 3 weeks ago

Similar boat. We aren't even seeing my wife's family because her mom is getting back together with her MAGA ex-husband and my wife just doesn't want to be a part of that

[–] [email protected] 30 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Thankfully not thanksgiving, but Christmas it will be my father... That whole side of the family really. Even my super religious grandmother chimes in with "the immigrants bring in disease!"

For a group of people that can love their family, they're all filled with so much hate for "others." :/

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 weeks ago

Ain't no love like Christian love

[–] [email protected] 25 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Fortunately, my family all died off in the pandemic. We were all liberal, and they'd be horrified by the state of things. I'm grateful they don't have to experience any of this.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 3 weeks ago

My mom would be devastated to see that they let the orange fucker do it again.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 3 weeks ago

It's my house. Everyone in the family knows I'll shut that shit down, so I look forward to seeing everyone 😁

[–] [email protected] 22 points 3 weeks ago

Take your pick.

  • The brother who was fired from his job as a prison guard for being too racist. He's told me on more than one occasion that he's smarter than any black person he's ever met... he's dropped out of college multiple times and now works for a convenience store along with "being his own boss" for MLM, selling shit door-to-door (yes, he will be trying to sell stuff at holiday gatherings).
  • The aunt who's sure that Obama was, in fact, the antichrist mentioned in the Book of Revelations. She believes that queer people are all pedophiles who can convert children and others to "their ways." Oddly though... not a Trump supporter, because DJT "let that beautiful daughter of his marry a Jew."
  • The cousin who is a flat earther and won't shut up about how the Jews run everything with their power tied (somehow) directly to convincing everyone that the planet isn't flat. His wife tried to get him to cut ties with the family because we don't go to their church which is all of about 100 people and based out of a partially abandoned strip mall.

They've all been ostracized by family in the past, but keep getting invited to stuff.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

This is the 3rd year I will be completely alone.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

You can come to my house if you want

We're having lasagna

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 3 weeks ago

I'm not sure what you're talking about. I love talking about politics. Oh wait, I think I'm that family member.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 3 weeks ago

You mean the people I was forced to experience my childhood and early adulthood with? Not seeing them at all.

They got themselves kicked to the curb long ago. Mom died 13 years ago, which greatly improved my life. Dad died this past May and I didn't even go to the funeral. Middle brother came out as an Oathbreaker, keeper or whatever those idiots call themselves. Oldest brother has always been a narcissistic asshat and I haven't spoken to him in almost a decade.

Nuclear war between nations is a terrible thing that should never happen.

Nuclear war on toxic relationships is the best thing ever.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 16 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I also choose this guys Jim

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 weeks ago

None. We have made politics a taboo subject at dinner. We know we don’t agree (older generations vs younger) and would rather converse about things we enjoy like the grandkids etc.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 weeks ago

None, I am intentionally not seeing my family for Thanksgiving.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 weeks ago

My aunt.

It’s not her politics (they’re awful, but she at least keeps them quiet). It’s more that she’s a combination of excessively chatty and dull.

She will talk about absolutely nothing for hours on end.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 weeks ago

I'm skipping Thanksgiving because my whole family has become brainwashed magats.

Even the ones I thought could never be that fuckin stupid.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 weeks ago

I have thanksgiving with only my wife and kids.

Then I have Friendsgiving, with a few friends and their family.

I haven't seen my family in years except for video calls. Same for my kids, and wife and kids. Not that I dislike them. Or would be opposed to them staying in the same town.

My family members are toxic, and after I moved, we never bothered.

I think more people should do that.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 weeks ago

We're going out of town so our DIL doesn't have to make up an excuse for not spending it with her fam.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

Got to hang out with the hard-r racist uncle, my 'pretends she a smart bible reader that hasn't fallen for 4 different(in name) pyramid scams' military sister, and my mentally disabled but violently aggressive brother that may have figured out that the cops will go easy on him every time.

These people wonder why I dread family gatherings and can't function socially.

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[–] Zink 7 points 3 weeks ago

I’m sure the more conservative members of my extended family will be angry and complaining about the world or how much money other people have or whatever.

And I’ll probably be in my usual spot, in the other room with the kids, playing video games or watching dumb funny videos.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 weeks ago
[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 weeks ago

We skip and do friendsgiving instead. And all our friends are on the same political side

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (2 children)

This was a significant factor in my deciding not to go see my sister and my brother-in-law this year. He's something else. Sweet man most the time, but full-on Maga.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 weeks ago

All of them. They are literally neonazis but with black and white switched. They would say "black lives matter" while beating up a black Jewish person. I hate my family.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 weeks ago

Brazillian, but my uncle follows bolsonaro. 😭

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 weeks ago

i spend time with my real family, my partner and child. don't need that negativity ✌🏻

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 weeks ago

I can think of one or two but thankfully I’m doing Friendsgiving this year.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 weeks ago

Me. I'm the family member.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

No one gets together in my family. Be nice to see them even if they brought up politics. I'd prefer they didn't but it would be nice to get together.

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