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Seriously I see these posts all the time about people who have a co-worker who steals food so they make gross food to 'get back at them' cause HR doesn't do anything.

Legit question but how do you not just freak out and yell at the person? If a co-worker stole my food the 1st time I'd yell at them and curse them out, the 2nd time I'd threaten to shove the food in their fat face next time I see it happen. If HR didn't do anything I'd threaten to quit and sue if they claimed I don't get EI because it's a toxic work environment.

I just don't get how people are so passive when co-workers literally steal from them? I'd be fucking livid.

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[–] [email protected] 71 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (4 children)

Because that's not how the corporate world works. You want to freak out and yell at them? Go ahead. Maybe they don't eat someone else's food for a week. Meanwhile you'll be hunting for a new job. You threaten another employee? You'll be lucky to be employed at the end of the day.

Life is a series of tradeoffs. The squeaky wheel gets the grease. Tim may steal food, but that doesn't mean it's throwing off the status quo. You yell at Tim, you're upsetting the status quo. So go ahead, and have fun with your pink slip. Hope it was worth it.

Or you can keep your lunch at your desk.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Good lord this makes me happy I've not worked in corporate and stayed in blue collar work.

Someone steals food in a shop, that someone's gonna have a bad day and the boss yells at anyone "whining", including the guy who got his ass kicked.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 month ago (1 children)

That sounds awful all around

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

Yes, life on earth as per usual. Humans are the problem as usual.

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[–] [email protected] 52 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Yall dealing with people stealing food? Ive worked in an office setting for almost 20 years and ive not once ever heard of someone taking someone elses food

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Where I work there was a night guard who would go around at night and steal food from alle the office break rooms. They installed combination locks on them ans gave the code only to people in the department. When they found the culprit, they fired him. Which is the only sensible thing to do when someone is stealing on the job.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago

Steal from the company, not from the employees.

[–] [email protected] 43 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm guessing that they don't know who stole the food

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I would still make a big deal about it, and demand a solution

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago

So say 100 people work at this company, the other 98 not involved don't want to listen to you rant and rave either. They might understand, but the more you escalate the less they want to deal with your shit either.

[–] [email protected] 42 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Maybe because the only co-worker food theft stories that get upvoted and therefore seen are the dramatic ones about passive-aggressively making gross food for the food thief. And who knows how many of them are true stories and how many are creative writing projects for internet points.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago

Making inedible or spicy food to catch a food thief is a trick as old as time and I have even done it myself. There is no other way to catch them out usually.

[–] [email protected] 36 points 1 month ago (3 children)

My cop relative said everyone working in police stations keeps their stuff in lockers because cops constantly steal from each other. Not just food.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 month ago

This is the least surprising thing I have learned today.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

What do you expect when most cops are criminals

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I empathize with your outrage. I once worked at a place with 100+ employees and high turnover, and people would steal lunches there. When I first heard about it I was horrified. The reality is that the company doesn't care, and unless you're the person whose lunch is being stolen, most co-workers won't care either -- they wouldn't even know how to help you.

A solution could be as simple as a camera pointed at the fridge, along with firing any thieves. IMO the fact that most places don't take it seriously is evidence of how little they care about the employees.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 month ago

Never ever been in a place where people take food that isn't theirs. I cannot even comprehend it. And if it happened more than once I'd keep my food in a backpack at my desk.

Is it yours? If no don't touch. Simple as that.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 month ago (3 children)

If they're any good at it, you won't know who stole your food. If I did know who the thief was, yelling/cursing/threatening would get me fired. It's easier to keep my food at my desk in an insulated lunchbox with an ice pack.

And finally, HR doesn't give a flying fuck about your lunch. They would laugh in your face if you threatened to sue them.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Stealing food is theft - it may be petty theft but it's still theft. If you report it to HR and nothing is done then you can sue the company for a hostile work environment.

If you use laxatives, excessive spice, whatever and injure a coworker then you can be fired with cause and possibly be civilly or criminally liable if the damages are significant enough.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 month ago (1 children)

A guy I worked with had his lunch stolen from the freezer one day. He walked around and found the empty container in the trash of a new guy. He was canned that day.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 month ago

Be wary of such proof.

As a young kid in the 80s, I went to stay for three days at an adventure centre. One barn was converted to house bunk beds and there were about 20 kids of about 11 years old. Everyone else was there for a week and I joined midway, and found it difficult to integrate.

One kid, the only one who had shown me any welcome, had his woolly hat stolen. Another kid suggested searching everyone's bags for it. There was general resistance, most kids thought he'd lost it somewhere and that never happened.

When I got home the following day and unpacked, I found the hat in my bag. Someone had planted it there, probably the kid who suggested searching bags. Taught me a lot about people, that did.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Um yea I think thats just social media attention seeking. I don't think that is any more common than something like shoplifting.

Reddit loves to upvote drama.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago

That doesn’t say much, shoplifting is super common.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Maybe it varies by industry, but I've been a white collar desk jockey for 18 years and I've never once heard of lunch theft in real life, only seen on social media.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 month ago

I mean the real answer to your question is that those posts are all fake because the internet loves stories about revenge on such a small scale they can't be disproven.

But I want to know what kind of job keeps you by the fridge 24/7 so you can always witness food theft. Most people don't work in the break room, so they have no way of knowing who to yell at when their food disappears.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)
  1. The average person wants peace in their life.

  2. These are the fringes that the malicious operate best.


  1. Because it's not really worth the hassle to you.

Most actually don't want to yell and scream at someone, to escalate a situation, to involve themselves with "authority figures" that do nothing but work preserve the hierarchy around them.

It's exhausting just to exist while we suffer this way of life. People just gotta pick their battles because we are losing the class war.

  1. Because they feel safe to antagonize relentlessly.

these malicious actors know the average person wants this peace. They pick and poke ceaselessly like the vultures they are. What are you gonna do about it? Nothing.

Even if you do stand your ground, you will be vilified for putting the front of their face into the back of their skull.

Or if you yell and scream, others will think you're crazy/dramatic/unreasonable regardless of the circumstances.

Or perhaps you plead uselessly to your indifferent "authority figures" who only exist to exploit you in the most efficient way possible. Utterly toothless. Can you be surprised? We are not free while living like this.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago

Because they don't know what i put in there.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago

gain a tolerance to very hot food. problem solved.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Where I work HR put a big sign on the refrigerator door about not stealing food

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

I agree. It's theft.

HR should absolutely get involved because it's going to really affect the working environment. And if you're hungry as a result, you're really not going to be doing your best work.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Put in laxatives or something that fucks them up

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 month ago (1 children)

That's poisoning and you absolutely can be held liable for any injury you cause.

Also, it's a completely reasonable reason to fire you.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 month ago

What do you mean? It as a laxative to help me poop. Why are you eating my medicated sandwich?

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Careful, people have been terminated and been sued for this kind of behavior.

You can make it very very spicy, however, as long as you're willing to eat it too

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

What if you love shitting and are willing to shit too?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

That's technically legal but basically no authority figure will believe you.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

I think I'd just bring extra food the next day so both I and they can eat. Clearly someone isn't able to bring their own food for whatever reason, and I can't really blame them for choosing to eat when the alternative is starving, even if it is annoying that I missed my lunch that day.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

This is the most legitimate answer.

Our children always went to school with extra (our dinner the night before was their lunch for the most part, we always tried to make extra).

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Are you really going to yell over someone accidentally taking the wrong ham and cheese sandwich?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

If it's in my lunch bag that doesn't look like theirs, then yes I would

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

How else are they going to identify middle management prospects?

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