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Femcel is indeed usually the same as incel, but with vaginas. But there's always mudiness around slang terms, even more than formalized terms.

Also, there is a standard for lemmy. They're communities, or (for the lazy like me, C/s), it's just that reddit exodus people tend to be too lazy to use the standard term.

There's a reason that every community url includes the c/ as part of it. That's how standardized it is, it's in the basic underpinning of lemmy. The choice of c/ wasn't arbitrary. Well, that's what one of the devs said (though not as a quote, I'm paraphrasing) back last year (iirc, could have been before that, I did lurk some on lemmy before the reddit fiasco).

Magazine was used guy kbin, and then mbin, which are similar federated platforms.

We all understand communities, it's only the folks that haven't caught up yet, or haven't paid attention that don't understand.

"The vibe" is more or less wallowing in the feeling of not being able to get a partner, from a feminine perspective and usually in a cutesy "haha I can't socialize and my life is a mess" way. This stands in contrast with many/most male incel communities, which tend to promote resentment and blaming a celibate status on everything but oneself (or pathologically blaming it on an immutable characteristic like one's height or canthal tilt). There is a degree of toxic internalization that can occur either way, but I like to think the humorous nature intended by the posts is a way to vent out the feelings and riff on them with others.

The transfem nature which carries over from the Blahaj instance dovetails with the community's theme, since it is rather difficult for most trans women or similar folks to get into relationships, on account of various circumstances relating to transitioning as an AMAB individual. There are the matters of physical appearance which is a facet of the genetic lottery, plus the social aspects of dating while trans. The dating pool for most trans people is, uh, quite a bit smaller, and shrinks further still when looking for medium/long term partners mainly due to stigma associated with dating trans people (especially to cis men being in a relationship with trans women, and especially if one is visibly trans to the general population, think the whole "is it gay" discourse).

So basically, femcelmemes is about acknowledging these challenges and playfully lamenting the celibate condition they bolster, while also allowing (trans)fems to embrace the girly aesthetic and mode of interaction while doing so. It's a gender-affirming way to cope with the situation, so provides some utility despite the generally self-deprecating nature of the posts made there. One also doesn't even have to be celibate (or even trans) to understand and find amusement in this struggle; you can just kind of vibe with the idea of defiantly girlbossing your way through a depressing time of life.

I hope that helps explain somewhat. I'm maybe not the best spokesperson but I've been following the community for a while at this point. If you have any follow up questions I'd be happy to try and provide my best understanding of things.

A femcel is just a female incel, as far as I'm aware. Although, considering that the original incel was a woman, it should be "incel" and "mancel"

EDIT: and "non-sex" for all my fellow enbies

I assumed it was the female equivalent of an incel and was prepared to block the community when I first saw it pop up, but it doesn't seem to be that at all. Just seems more like trans memes, specifically from a transfem perspective.

Ahh

Celeste my favorite video game character from famous game Madeleine