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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The best ones are thoughts that many people can relate to and they find something funny or interesting in regular stuff.

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Men dream as male character, women dream as female character how do trans persons dream then? Trans men as men?? Trans women as women??

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[–] [email protected] 86 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I can't say I'm ever particularly aware of my gender when I'm dreaming

[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 months ago

I've never been aware of my gender while dreaming unless it wasn't a PG dream

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

Same. My body just exists in the dream. Well. A blob sometimes? It's just there to make sure I can cook all these eggs for my goblin friends and the cat. Or some other insane task my brain dreamed up.

[–] [email protected] 78 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Transman here. I dream as a man even when dreaming of my childhood.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 2 months ago

Wholesome af.

[–] [email protected] 37 points 2 months ago (1 children)

As a cis man, I'm confused. I mean I just dream about my self, do people sometimes not? Like I at most have altered memories in dreams, but it's still fundamentally me.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago

Right, and everything is my point of view. , so what I’m experiencing, more than on me personally

[–] [email protected] 33 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Boringly straight man here: I usually dream as myself, but occasionally I'm dreaming that I'm someone else. Could be either a man or a woman. Sometimes I have no body at all.

So I know nothing about how common my style of dreams are, but I don't see any reason why trans people would have to dream a single persona all the time.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago
[–] [email protected] 31 points 2 months ago

as a trans man i think my dreams have weirder things to unpack than my POV character's gender, but overall it varies, 96% of the time i'm just me, those 4% of dreams i remember that i was someone else have a pretty 50/50 gender split

and per the me part: i'm a man but gender never really comes up so i'd be more inclined to say i'm just me

[–] [email protected] 26 points 2 months ago (2 children)

probably most often one dreams as the gender they are but i often dream i can fly and breathe underwater all the time so i wouldn’t say it’s a red flag or invalidating if you happen to dream as a gender you aren’t. :)

[–] [email protected] 23 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I sometimes dream that I'm lovable.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 2 months ago

you dream correctly my friend 💛

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I wish I could breathe underwater in my dreams.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

skill issue

[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (3 children)

I think asking for trans people is wrong because they genuinely are (in a sense of their core identity and perception of themselves) the gender they transitioned too.

But a different question would be for example, for someone who got disbled later in life, are you disabled in your dreams?

The answer (atleast for me) in that case, is mostly I am, but not always, and sometimes less severely so than in real life.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

I can only give an answer from someone who was always disabled "I am disabled in my dreams, but at the level I was in my 20s (so capable of walking unaided and stuff) despite steadily becoming worse"

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

Thank you for sharing your perspective on this.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

I often am even more disabled in my dreams than I am in real life, as my dreams play to my fears of being entirely unable to walk (I have muscle weakness and fatigue, but I can still walk almost all of the time) or to wake up (also have narcolepsy and sometimes can't wake up).

[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 months ago

What objective evidence do you have of your premise that men dream as a male character and women dream as a female character?

[–] [email protected] 13 points 2 months ago (1 children)

You dream of yourself being an NPC?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

I dream of selling overpriced potions to the adventurer who comes by my village. When he buys nothing I get frustrated i yell "come back when you've got some coin"

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 months ago

Not trans, but I’d imagine it’d be same if I were: I typically dream as myself. Y’all be dreaming as other people? That’s kinda cool.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago

I normally just dream as myself, whatever that is at any given time

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago

I mostly dream of drowning myself

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago

Cis male but if the topic is dreams and identity I once had a kick ass lucid dream where I transformed into a Killik and got to experience being a humanoid insect with 4 arms and 2 legs.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago

I've had a few dreams as a cis male where I was a woman, so basically I reject your premise. However in most dreams I'm not even a character, I'm just the perspective from which the story is experienced.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago

i dream of myself as the disaster of gender that i am

if im having a rough day with dysphoria irl then the dream world will typically reflect that

the trans aspect, like with most things, can be taken out of the equation. trans women being women, trans men being men, will dream being themselves most often regardless of gender

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago

You dream as a "character" like in a video game?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

Not all dreams are projections of your own aspirations or true self image.

They're random scenarios put together by your brain during sleep for purposes we don't entirely understand yet, though they may be related to digesting the information you've gathered over the previous day to turn it into lessons and connections you can call on later from your unconscious memory.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

You make a body and gender for yourself in dreams?

To what end?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

Yes, we usually dream as ourselves.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

I rarely dream, and when I do, it's either a nightmare or the most borderline trash imaginable. I dreamt once about myself, and it was about me being trans specifically.

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