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For example, I'm a white Jewish guy but I've adopted the Japanese practice of keeping dedicated house slippers at the front door.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

I was what I think we would now call a "weeb" in my junior/senior year of high school, and had studied Japanese culture before making a short trip over there in the summer. One of the things I learned was that blowing your nose in public is seen as bad manners, and it really stuck with me. When you think about it, it is pretty gross to loudly blow snot into a tissue (bonus points for carrying a handkerchief!) in front of others, like (as an American) we'll just do this at the dinner table without batting an eye.

To this day, I try not to blow my nose in public places or in front of folks if I can avoid it, because it has grossed me out ever since learning how Japanese culture perceives it.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago

Wtf? That is super gross. I'm Canadian and I don't know anyone who would do it at the dinner table. I've seen my boss do it at his desk but he turns to face the corner next to his desk first.

Ime most people go to the washroom to do it, or at least make sure they're not near anyone else.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I'm American and I don't think anyone in my social circle would blow their nose at the dinner table. Yours might just be gross.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

What do you think you're supposed to do after rating spicy buffalo wings that make your nose run?

Sure there's some settings where you don't do it (or do it quietly). Many restaurants are also loud enough that you won't even hear it unless you're listening to it.

[–] [email protected] -5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Or, you’re an American who lives in a country/continent where there are a wide variety of people outside of your little bubble who have different backgrounds and different cultural norms that you’ve very likely never considered.

See, I can be demeaning too!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

See, I can be demeaning too!

Good thing you explained what you were going for because it was kind of hard to follow.

You made an assertion about all americans:

like (as an American) we’ll just do this

and someone wished to dispute it based on their own experience.

You described a behaviour as gross and indicate that it is common in your social circles. How is it demeaning to says that your social circles are gross? @htrayl is agreeing with you

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

It seems to me to be worse manners to just leave your snot as leaking out or making you sniffle. Better to get it over with rather than make people listen to that for minutes to hours.