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How to meet people (lemmy.world)

submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I'm 41F. I was married but separated 8 years ago. I was still young but was very traumatized and never really wanted another relationship. Lately I've been feeling a little lonely and would like to meet some new people but I moved and don't have many friends here and the ones I have are younger and do younger people things (like going out at night. I'm too old for that lol). I wanted to meet some people my age, friends or dates, but almost everyone is married. I do cooking and French classes but again, only young people do that and I'm the "odd old lady". I think people past 40 don't really have hobbies or money to spend on them. I'm overweight so I can't really use apps, and to be honest don't really want. So how a single woman without kids (can't have it) meet people?! Or do I just give up?! lol

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I was done with partying when I was in my twenties, honestly. It doesn't give me anything. I can't hear people talking, we always lose each other in the crowd, it's stuffy, people are obnoxious when drunk, etc etc etc, blech.

I much prefer a social thing at someone's house with at most like 5-8 people, maximum. Preferably max 4. Then everyone can be heard, get a chance to speak, not too loud, bathroom close at hand, cheaper drinks that don't empty your pockets, access to more fun things not available in a club/restaurant like video/board games, movies, etc etc etc.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

access to more fun things not available in a club/restaurant like video/board games, movies, etc etc etc.

Beercades exist, I've been in a bar/brewery that had a collection of board games to borrow, etc. Also, karaoke at hole-in-the-wall Japanese and Korean places is super fun.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago

Still those other problems, though...