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I was 14 and the first time I talked with my uncle was him berating me over playing video games. That was also the last time I spoke to that fucker.
Yeah it’s also a way to filter all assholes out of your life when they hate on video games. The inability of ‘being able to play’ to just find joy in life is usually a red flag of a raging type A. Like every moment of your life isn’t just for production. We’re not bees.
Wow. It feels like you're talking directly to me about one of my family members. It's clear that this kind of apathy towards video games isn't uncommon
Oh yeah, You’d find these behaviours will be against almost anything that isn’t condincidered productive. They’ll insult a persons hobby just cuz it isn’t used to generate money. They don’t hold motivation by interest in any esteem. It’s like a symptom of a toxic work environment where every second has to be counted as how much money has been made or wasted. Then these people cannot turn off that part of their brain even when they’ve finished work and it creeps into every relationship they have.
You never had a kid that spent every free moment (and then some) on video games. Every moment of your life isn't for garnering fake accomplishments in fake worlds, either. It's a problem.
Ok so I don’t know you so I don’t know if you’re one of those who decides if someone is having fun AT ALL Even for half an hour it means they are wasting their life. Or if they have even something else they pay attention to outside of yourself you feel abandoned and get all all-or-nothing into micromanaging their life. I’ve known parents like this.
So Considering I was pretty clear in how I described the destructive behaviour of an (all or nothing) type A is unhealthy I’m not impressed with your judgment to intro your argument here. Not everything has to a slippery slope argument. It is a fallacy argument. Inability to have any joy is bad. So denying games is actually bad too. The OP posted how their discussion was denying ANY video games. That was the point. You skipped over that too just to make your point. That’s bad actor energy right there.
That’s it. I’m done repeating this to you or anyone who can’t stop and read something before megaphoning your poorly mismatched argument you want to have. Ya blocked so go tell it to the birds.
Moderation is definitely important, but being told you shouldn’t enjoy the things you do and that it’s a waste of time sucks and can really mess you up. I’m still trying to figure out how to actually enjoy life because of stuff like this, and usually won’t talk to anybody about what I do in my free time because of this.
Oh yeah it ruins relationships because people can no longer share a lot of their life with another person. Hard to trust with that hyper criticism. Hopefully you can be able to share again and if you encounter another person is like this, try to categorize it as their issue and move on and still let yourself trust again. It can actually help a bit to see what kind of innocuous thing might trigger off a person so you know to avoid that person and their issues and just know it’s not an issue about you. It’s absolutely ok to like games. They have the problem. Not you.
Well said :)
"Yeah it’s also a way to filter all assholes out of your life when they hate on video games. "
That's what I was responding to. Video games can be dangerously, debilitatingly addictive to young men.
You also described having a job.
Have you ever considered that it may not be the games doing that, but it being a symptom, serving as a form of escapeism?
I've got personal experience with the addictiveness of games. Reducing them to mere escapism isn't giving game designers enough credit.