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I have come across a lot's of people like these. like 99% of them. Sometimes it makes me think twice if what i am saying is wrong? What's wrong with them. Is it so hard to swallow your pride and acknowledge that the other person is speaking facts? When they come to know they are wrong they proceed to insult/make fun of others to save their ass. Just why?

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Sometimes you have to cut your losses and leave a conversation. If it’s some rando on the internet, just walk away and try not to care what they think.

With people you know and respect, you’re gonna have to hunker down for the long haul. Remember, if you come off like a jerk, they’re going to be less likely to accept your argument. Be respectful of their position but ask probing questions. Let them see for themselves that they’re wrong.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

if you come off like a jerk, they’re going to be less likely to accept your argument

Very true. Lots of people attempt to package two messages together:

  • You’re wrong about this
  • You’re worthless

Quite frankly, people should reject the second message, and people who try to package the first with the second should expect listeners to reject the whole package.

Honestly it’s probably better for people to reject that whole package of messages than to accept it, even if it means being wrong, because at least they won’t be taking that toxicity into their soul.

Someone who goes around trying to convey those messages together, to be accepted as a package, is themselves doing it wrong.