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USAian society has probably told you there is some kind of formula to calculate whether it's alright. Fuck that. Treat her like a human, not some input to a formula. Be decent, communicate, and if she's fine with it and likes you, that's all that matters. Society shouldn't come between you and another human.
That formula is French
I thought in France the formula was your age x 0 + 15
That's only true in the Quinze region of France.
I'm French and never heard about it from French people. It's always brought up by Americans.
Lol, it's from a comedy, it was never meant to be serious.
It is usually cited as 1/2 your current age + 7.
That’s the formula that this commenter recommended to fuck.
Fuck it hard
Can formulas consent?
Depends on the input
Yeah, there's really nothing wrong with a 50 year old dating a 19 year old. Age is just a number. There's no power imbalance there or expectations. It's perfectly healthy for the 19 year old to get into a long term relationship where their partner is going to be 70 before they're 40.
Or, maybe, half your age + 7 is a good rule. It's pretty lenient.
At 18 we let people vote on the direction of the entire nation. We let them buy houses and go into debt for life. We let them die in war for their country. Most places in the world let them drink and get married. Of all of these rights, the absolute least of them is the right to fuck whichever other adult they choose. I cannot understand the utter insanity of thinking one is responsible enough to vote but not have sex. If you don’t think they’re responsible enough to have sex then they’re sure as shit not responsible enough to everything else.
18 year olds are adults. It’s time we stop infantilising them. People used to get married much younger than even that. If they want to fuck an older person, more power to them.
Yeah its not illegal for an 18 year old to date a 50 year old. You can still recognize that the 50 year old in this case is a creep.
No bank will give a home loan to an 18 year old that doesn't have income. They will happily give them a student loan and saddle them in debt for life though because the loan can't be discharged. That scenario is legal and is also rightfully criticized.
You say let them die in a war like thats a feature and something the teenager wants. Governments would conscript younger teens if they could get away with it.
Way to treat another human like an input to formula. Good job
Absolutely wrong