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This "I can do better" mindset is probably the single biggest factor why people end up lonely for the rest of their life.
It sounds like oop didn't really love her tho. They acted rash but it's not like they saw other girls and decided to ditch the relationship
It's such an easy mindset to fall into, esp that young. Your other makes you feel so special, and you can easily think you can replicate that with anyone. You can't, it comes very seldom, if ever.
Sure, but also you can't settle for someone you don't connect with.
Yeah, but I think a lot of people are shallow, they think one bad argument or one off day is enough to start looking elsewhere. They want their perfect fantasies and don't want to do any work for the relationships.
I realized that was monogamy. When you don't have to chose just one person to share you life with you get to decide who you want to share your life with.
In my experience, every single polyamorous relationship I've known of has been led by a pathetic man who thinks he's the best thing ever created, there's always multiple girls, rarely multiple guys and the girls don't really have any of the power in the relationships, although many of them are convinced that isn't the case.
Tl;dr polyamory is for self-centered douchebags with low morality and self-control.
Yikes sorry to hear that. My polycule isn't "led". I'm one of two cis males but we're both bi and aren't romanticly involved. There are no cis women in my polycule but a couple of nonbinary beans. I suppose one of the nonbinary beans makes the financial decisions so they lead in that regard but we mostly have intersecting hobbies. I do have a girlfriend everyone is aware of but she's not really involved in the polycule and only really interested in me.
But the feeling of "I can do better" usually means giving up your current relationship to support the next one. With healthy ethical non-monogamy the polycule tends to help you get the relationships you want to be involved with. But it appears this is just my experience.
Sorry I only know English.
Ok. Good job learning it buddy.