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Without mentioning smartphones or social media, what societal changes have you noticed over the course of your lifetime? (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Originally it was going to be "over the last twenty years" but I decided to be more flexible.

A lot of discussions about how society has changed or how the world is different always circle around to smartphones, social media, "no one talks to each other in person, they're on their phones always" and the like.

Outside of those topics, what else has changed, by your perception?

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[–] [email protected] 46 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I've noticed an increase in noticing other people being not well, but a decrease in the depth that people care. It used to feel that you might have one or two friends who cared about you deeply. They'd drop everything to help and wouldn't ask for anything in return. Now it seems like everyone cares about everyone but not enough to actually do anything.

[–] [email protected] 55 points 3 days ago (1 children)

It's more like everyone is literally at their limit for taking care of themselves and literally has no energy leftover for others.

I think this is purposeful to socially divide us.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 days ago

Could be. But I also see it as a change of mindset. It used to be you cared deeply for a few people. Now it seems like you're expected to care about everyone. And if you spread it that far it becomes thin.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 3 days ago

Yeah.

We had twins nearly 2 years ago.

I never really expected "help" but when we were pregnant there were people coming over every day telling us how much they were going to help. My wife has a huge social group, it was kinda overwhelming.

Since they were born, there's been 1 person who has just been amazing. She's here for a few hours several times a week and just plays with the kids. She's been really consistent.

No one else really knows how to help I think. Or maybe they think everyone else is helping. Or maybe just doing their own thing (which is fine ofc).