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[–] [email protected] 55 points 4 days ago (11 children)

They assigned male at birth, they were wrong - oops.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 4 days ago (10 children)

Same here! I had to cosplay as a guy for 47 years. Yuck.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 4 days ago (8 children)

If comfortable, could you or someone else who is trans try to explain the feelings behind transitioning to me, a cisgender? I support trans rights and maintain the philosophy of live and let live (dare I say, true individual freedom as a leftist); I'm just trying to better understand for my own sake.

More specifically,

  • Is it a matter of societal forces imposing masculine expectations because of your physical characteristics when ultimately, what you feel deep down are effeminate characteristics of the true you? (Or am I wrongly assuming that one is transitioning to another gender and not instead to non-binary?)

  • If yes to the first, if society was more receptive to, say, masculine women or effeminate men at face-value, would that have made you more comfortable prior to transitioning?

  • If no, I'm interested in better understanding how this sort of realignment for lack of a better word improves the feelings of gender dysphoria if it's more an internal pressure than one imposed upon you by society.

  • In terms of physical attraction, are say MtF by the statistics more attracted to M or F, or is it split, are the bisexual/asexual/pansexual, or is data unclear? Is the aspect of gender dysphoria entirely decoupled from the notion of partner attraction (gay, straight, etc.)?

Hopefully I asked these in a way that is both respectful and makes sense. No pressure to respond, thanks.

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