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[–] [email protected] 0 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I don’t particularly like being lumped in with a bunch of jerks who’ve treated you badly tbh, but equally if you’re feeling harassed I’m happy to put a pin in this.

I won't lie, I've been harassed so much (sincerely, check out my posting history, its a trip) that at this point its hard to distinguish people who are just curious, and people who are truly rude/trolling/intellectually dishonest. If you're one of the former, my apologies.

I do stand by what I said about derailing a conversation though, I would say that to anyone, under the same circumstances.

Have a nice day.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

All good, I did read the links you sent so I could see some of the "feedback" you received. It seems we both want Lemmy to be a nice place with constructive conversation so we're very much on the same page there.

That said, I don't think gatekeeping others with "you can only talk about the thread topic" is a healthy way to do that, so we diverge there.

I'm not going to stop doing it and, if you look around, you'll see plenty of others doing it too, so I'm in good company there.

It's nicer if we let conversation flow naturally and don't set arbitrary constraints - the mods can do that via the community rules if they want to but, again, you won't find many examples of that either.

[–] [email protected] -2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I do stand by what I said about derailing a conversation though, I would say that to anyone, under the same circumstances.

I don’t think gatekeeping others with “you can only talk about the thread topic” is a healthy way to do that, so we diverge there.

I’m not going to stop doing it and, if you look around, you’ll see plenty of others doing it too, so I’m in good company there.

It’s nicer if we let conversation flow naturally and don’t set arbitrary constraints - the mods can do that via the community rules if they want to but, again, you won’t find many examples of that either.

My understanding is that derailing any conversation, hijacking it, has been frowned up socially, both in 1) social media (since the days of dialing into BBS sites with our modems), as well as 2) in real life. Something that is considered harmful/distractful to the ACTUAL conversation being had.

Fun fact. "Conversation Hijacking" is even used in nefarious ways as part of social engineering to get into your computer (actually true, look it up). That it is a type of phishing scam.

Are you saying that is no longer the case, that it is ok to derail/hijack a conversation?

The links I supplied above seem to say otherwise, and that's my understanding of the current consensus of the Internet/Humanity.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

No I'm not saying that, it seems you didn't understand what I said at all. Let's put that pin back in and not "derail" any more, eh?

[–] [email protected] -2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I'm quoting you, but okay. I've made my point, I rather not discuss it further either.

Also, the pattern is getting repetitive and noticeable.

Have a nice day.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago

Sure buddy, have a good one.