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Federated Dating App? (lemm.ee)

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I was trying to explain federated websites to a friend and she asked if there is a federated dating app. She recently went through a break up and the apps are dreadful as I'm sure many of you know.

It'd be hard to launch a dating system on the fediverse because it the type of service that relies heavily on network effects. People want to be on the dating app with the most people. However, I think there is an opportunity because the mainstream apps are so notoriously awful, monetized, and enshitified.

It could be a community within an existing network or it could be its own website. I don't know, I'm just putting the idea out there.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 hours ago (2 children)

Match group 100% should be broken up.

I think a lot of people, of all genders, are surprisingly bad at the skills needed to use a dating app successfully. People dead end conversations and then are like "why aren't I having fun conversations?"

Like, a profile says "I love SomeBand". You write "hey! SomeBand is my favorite. Did you see their new music video? I don't know how they got those cats to act!" And then respond with "no", end of message. I'm just like my friend, that is not how you use this tool. What do you think is going to happen next?

But yeah, women refusing to take initiative probably isn't helping. But the roots of that are pretty deep in our sexist society, and I don't see that changing any time soon.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 hours ago

"why aren't I having fun conversations?"

You are taking their question at face value. What they really mean is why am I not being contacted by attractive people?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 hours ago

Don't get me started on men on dating apps. Obviously my experience is second hand, but from what I can gather, it's generally a race to send a dick pic, them thinking money can buy everything, them having as you said no idea how to have a conversation and then there's the ones that get no response and so start with the harassment.

One thing that I find really perplexing is all the profiles that state, "no pen pals", what's the point of being on a dating app if you're not going to vet people. It's like letting someone do surgery because they look like a doctor and then wondering why they're on trial for murdering the village. I just wanna figure out if we have sustained chemistry. If you can't be arsed to message me for a week or two, you're not gonna wanna date me are you?!