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What are some dating mistakes you often see when people try seeking a partner? (kbin.melroy.org)

submitted 5 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I have a few.

One is abbreviation hell. Nobody is going to spend the time trying to decipher what you mean when you use over several abbreviations. It is just better if you'd explain than expecting people to understand aside from commonly used abbreviations that are easy to understand.

Another is overstepping your limits for the sake of getting a partner. Compromising your own standards is perhaps one of the worst things you can do when it comes to trying to find dates. Like you're suddenly okay with dating single parents but you don't like children. You're suddenly okay with dating religious people but you're not religious. Things like that. Because it means you're desperate and you're setting yourself up and setting them up for a bad date.

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 5 days ago (2 children)

No idea. I always tell them how nice I am, I always hold the door for them, and I even shower before we meet up. I've even going so far as to pick them up at their houses, they never seem to appreciate it. Some have reacted quite unexpectedly, slamming the door and yelling about police. I've learned to never show initiative and learn their address beforehand, as the effort is never reciprocated. Maybe if I was some knuckledragging douchebag, I'd get some of the attention I deserve.

[–] [email protected] 30 points 5 days ago (2 children)

I find if you visit them in their bedroom for a surprise you can get to know how they react under stressful situations.

Honestly to me that's really important. I need someone who is cool and calm under pressure

[–] [email protected] 19 points 5 days ago

Can you imagine hitching your wagon to someone only to find out years later that they can't stay focused while under the effects of teargas?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Ok, Tyler

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago

I am old enough to appreciate that reference.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 5 days ago (2 children)

That's..... That's a joke right?

[–] [email protected] 24 points 5 days ago (3 children)

It says a lot about the strange people you meet online that, had I never responded, no one but me would truly know if this offhand comment actually came from a deranged stalker or just some drunk and bored idiot looking to do some light trolling.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago

Ok! Phew! I've read some real incel shit on some comments and you made me believe your case was real.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 5 days ago (1 children)

It's masterful

[–] [email protected] 19 points 5 days ago

Why thank you, it took many edits to get it to the point where it was creepy but believable.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago

Just online? I wish. I've unfortunately met dudes who talk like that irl

[–] [email protected] 12 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I'm gonna say probably a joke, but we all know where exactly to find a dead serious version

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago

Yeah. These days it's difficult to tell.