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Yes, that’s my concern - the girl being hurt. The part about his ex was to highlight that he doesn’t have a track record of dating younger girls or unstable, toxic, abusive relationships. The part about him not lacking options was to highlight that I don’t understand what’d logically get him to do this; since most men who date young girls do it because they can’t get someone their own age and are looking for someone who can be easily manipulated. Has nothing to do with the girl “not being good enough for him”. Hope this clarified it.
Well, have you tried asking him why he picked her? Note my choice of words here. Specifically don't ask him why he didn't pick someone else but what he likes about her. My personal guesses (!) are: they share an interest in jazz music, they had a good time together at the festival and she doesn't expect him to act like society imagines "an adult": she lets him make up for something he missed when he was younger.
About her being hurt: he's your son, you know him better than we do. Do you think he's the kind of guy who would do that? If not, look out for signs that it might actually be happening instead of relying on your expectations. Stay in contact with her parents. At the same time, make sure she's comfortable talking to you. That way you will know if something happens. But please don't accuse either of them of something that isn't actually happening.
What the f do you mean by 'what'd logically get him to do this'. Why are you saying it like he specifically went into high schools looking for young girls to date? Is that what happened? I dont think so. People meet people and fall in love. Should he reject her just because you have prejudices against age gaps?