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If she was in it for honest love, then I'd be more accepting of what you're describing. I'm less put off by the age gap and more put off by the marrying for money part. This happens all the time, and it's one of the many reasons I hate capitalism and consumerism, as it ultimately makes the choice to marry for money a "reasonable choice".
I understand that "marriage is a business contract" has been a more true statement than "marriage is a love pact" for most of human history. But that doesn't make it right. Marrying for love, IMHO is the only reason to feel good about a marriage, because ultimately that's the only actually good thing about marriage. The rest of it is theater and performance.
She's an adult, she can make all the mistakes she wants, and in our fucked up capitalist society, what your daughter is doing is considered not a mistake, but a reasonable financial decision. And that is what sickens me.
It's one of those "hate the game, not the player," situations, sadly. Cuz you can stop a single player, the game on the other hand...