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I go to work to work because I need a paycheck, not to make friends.

Where I am there is a new coworker that to me acts needy (think of Slow Horses's Struan Loy), tries befriending me, but he invariably asks if everything's ok. I don't care about this person's life.

The first 2 times I didn't think anything of it, but he asks that every day and it's becoming tiring.

I feel mobbed and stalked, mobbed because he keeps insinuating there is something wrong with me just because I don't ask him about his private life and do my job, and stalked, because he is so fixated on me.

going to HR over this seems ridiculous, but I'm starting to hate his voice.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 27 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Don't say it, send it in an email.

[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago

Carry it printed on a sign behind your back until he pops up, then whip it out after the first question. Then walk away after he's read it, while conspicuously taking handwritten notes and looking back over your shoulder.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Why in godโ€™s name would you escalate to writing?

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

so that if it escalates there is a trail of information to bring to hr. especially a good idea if this person has been around the company longer.