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Straight men, what's the weirdest thing you've been told you can't do because it's gay? (lemmy.world)

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 4 weeks ago (3 children)

These are all example from decades ago growing up in the 90’s.

I was called gay for not liking soccer, like it’s gay to not watch men chase a ball in shorts.

I was called gay for wearing UGG boots as a dude. Like if we even want to accept gay as an insult, I would argue the person bothered by such things as what shoes one is wearing is more fitting of an insult.

Fun fact. When I had a house mate who was gay, it was very difficult not to use gay as a word for something that wasn’t fun. Like this show is gay. He didn’t mind, but still wanted to stop.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 weeks ago

I somehow managed to condition myself into thinking of gay as a complement term. People I hung out with in high school used to call things "straight" derogatively. Something was straight if it was boring, bland, predictable, superficially performative in a conformist manner, etc.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

growing up in the ’90s*

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 weeks ago

Thanks.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

I read a lot as a child and watched very little TV. So in first grade, I only knew the "traditional" meaning of gay. The first time I remember hearing it in the sense of homosexual was when a classmate told me, in a hushed and gossipy tone, "one of the Teletubbies is gay." (I did know about the show even if I hadn't ever watched it.) I didn't really react, but all I was thinking was, "aren't they all?"