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How to find interesting friends as a young adult. (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I have many interests, if not too many. From cooking, woodwork and computers. Many of my friends are academically very successful but are frankly painfully boring and I sometimes feel isolated around them.

I like to cook when they hang at my house, I'll try to teach them how, some basic tips, etc. As soon as I glanced towards them again I realized they walked off.

This summarizes a lot of our interactions. As we get to a topic I understand and can speak passionately about, they sort of turn off. They talk to each other fine, but it's often internet drama, school drama or sports.

I'm not in college\classes and it seems almost impossible to meet others, especially others that are interesting and curious. I find myself bonding most to adults but it's isolating I can't find others my age.

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[–] [email protected] 36 points 2 months ago

Listening is a skill. Be more interested in them and don't try so hard to be interesting. (Being interested is being interesting).

Ask questions and get them to open up with your active listening. At some point, they will show more interest in what you're doing. Being a host is all about letting your guests shine. Not giving them a TED talk.