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One that comes to mind for me: "Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger" is not always true. Maybe even only half the time! Are there any phrases you tend to hear and shake your head at?

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 3 months ago (2 children)

"If you run into assholes all day you're the asshole"

Because bullying is not a thing amirite

[–] [email protected] 24 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I dont think it applies if everyone you know is actually an asshole.

The takeaway from the phrase is just to check yourself and your attitude. Make sure you aren't the one being difficult before you confirm that all these other people are shit heads.

Juat about self-awareness.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago

Yep. I've worked with people who call everyone on their team idiots/lazy, oblivious that they are in fact, the toxic asshole.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 3 months ago

I prefer the version. "If you smell shit, check the floor. If you constantly smell shit, check your shoes."

It's a reminder that a 1 off problem is likely external to you. If the problem seems to follow you around, it's likely attached to you.

It doesn't deny that the problem could still be external, but not to externalise things unless you are sure you're not causing it.