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Me personally? I've become much less tolerant of sexist humor. Back in the day, cracking a joke at women's expense was pretty common when I was a teen. As I've matured and become aware to the horrific extent of toxicity and bigotry pervading all tiers of our individualistic society, I've come to see how exclusionarly and objectifying that sort of 'humor' really is, and I regret it deeply.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (3 children)

So can I use dumb? Because some people are relatively unintelligent due to their disability. Will they feel attacked when I say 'this is dumb'? Does that make me privileged?

Like, how specific do we get? Wouldn't it be easier to differentiate between people using these words as insults or otherwise?

I have my problems as well, for example I am unusually tall, which makes for some problems in my day to day life, for example finding the right shoes/clothing. Is someone using the phrase 'huge problem'' privileged? Is there a line we draw, or can we only ever use perfectly neutral phrases.

I am living my life trying to be nice and sensible to everyone, can't that be enough?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Because people are way too easily offended nowadays.

[–] [email protected] -3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

See, often times this exact sentence is also just used by people as an excuse to be an asshole. Which I think is equally as big a problem.

I am not sensitive at all, but if some random dude comes up to me and calls be a big, ugly dumbass? Ima be honest, that dude's getting punched probably.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Perhaps. This is a targeted attack on you though. So you're naturally expected to be angry and attack someone. It's not the same thing. False equivalency.

What's happening here is censorship of others because you don't like it. Censoring others is not the right way to do things. You can't just go around telling people to change just because someone might be offended.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Maybe not the violence but, but this is basically how people are supposed to handle being upset: you take responsibility and action.

Instead people do nothing to solve the problem directly, and instead go around telling the whole world that it needs to change to accommodate them.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Don't tell someone they are being short with you when they are mad because thats an attack on height challenged individuals