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Calling everyone "man", "bro", "you guys"
I recommend "folks" or "fellas".
I still do this in the most gender neutral way possible, is this no longer kosher?
Nah it’s fine, you’re fine.
Some might disagree, but IMO it’s actually a show of respect and inclusion. In Star Trek they call all senior officers Sir, regardless of gender. Love it.
What's wrong with that?
That there is 51% of people who usually do not see themselves represented in those words. Y'all and peeps are my favorites.
I always thought those terms were gender neutral. Girls and boys alike use them where I'm from.
I started addressing people online with "Girls" and some completely lost their shit and got incredibly angry. I kinda think different now about addressing whole groups as "Boys".
I realized that the fact people think "Boys" is neutral and cool but "Girls" is basically an insult is a problem. And I don't want to take part in keeping it alive.
A lot of FLINTA people don't like it. It can be especially upsetting to AMAB people who don't identify as male. It's not the same, but it's similar to things like the n-word, or the f-slur. If someone chooses to use the word about themselves, that's one thing, but if they don't, there's a very good chance you'd upset them.
What do those acronyms mean?
FLINTA - Frauen, Lesben, Intersexuelle, Nicht-binär, Transgender and Agender. It's a German acronym, and basically covers all non-cishet men, though with a bent toward the female side of things.
AMAB - assigned male at birth. Basically if the doctor slapped your arse and said "it's a boy", you're AMAB.
Though not acronyms, I'll expand for clarity:
N word - n****r, a racial slur aimed at black people.
F slur - f****t, a homophobic slur, primarily aimed at male presenting queer people, but pretty common all round.
Cool thanks! I didn't expect German.