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I'll start, people I talk on Discord with know more of my music preference than IRL people I meet with, because rejection sensitivity i guess

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 5 months ago (2 children)

I'm not afraid to discuss them in real life, but I discuss my medical issues more openly online. Mostly because I don't want to just whine about my medical issues.

I'm also more open to sharing private information like, I've never felt that I belong to any gender (and this led to a lot of anger and frustration for me growing up). That's becoming more accepted now, but I was never part of the LGBTQ+ community and I don't feel like it represents me particularly well. I'm just kind of neutral and don't want to be associated with any sort of gender identity or movement one way or another.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 months ago

I also discuss my health more online. It's easier to be honest with strangers about my legit fears and worries. Like, the new medicine I'm on for whatever rheumatic disease I have (will hopefully be getting a diagnosis in September) can make me go blind with long-term use. I don't want to go blind, but 20-30 years of not feeling like absolute dog shit would be worth it imo. Idk what I'll do if I am one of the people who has their sight impacted. Hopefully by then there will be treatment for that. Right now, I'm just trying to focus on the fact that I'm starting to feel okay for the first time in my life.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

same here man. about the lgbtq+ stuff. I just want to do whatever, but IRL everyone has to put you into a box based 100% on your physical appearance. I hate it. I don't give a shit about feminine or masculinity or who anyone wants to fuck or not fuck.

I especially hate it when I date. everyone assumes I'm this macho conservative guy... and gets pissed off at me when I don't live up to the stereotype and find out I'm socialist and don't give a shit about traditional gender roles. and the people who want to hang out with me are always conservative and traditional leaning, an the left/liberal types shun me because I don't have tattoos.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Where are you that you get shunned for not having tattoos?

I'm also curious how you dress because that can send signals to others about our likely political leanings even when we think we're just dressing generically, and that will also be affected by where you live.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago (1 children)

i look like a football player. that's why. big strong dudes w/o tatoos aren't liberal. that's for scrawy tatooted guys with piercings.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago

Ah. Doesn't fit my area. I've seen plenty of guys who look like football players walking around in kilts over the years, and plenty who clearly signaled that they weren't conservative in other ways, such as hairstyle.