Galtiel

joined 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

You're gonna be fine in the long run, I promise!

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Everything you do is a choice on some level, and everything he does is a choice too. I guarantee you there have been times where he felt miserable and guilty going to the bar instead of coming home to you. Times where he wanted to open up to you the way you opened up to him. I'm sure those times ate at him and made him feel like a piece of shit or whatever.

And rather than just doing the things he knew would make himself and you feel better, he went to the bar instead. He failed to be emotionally available even after you told him your needs and that you felt neglected.

Whether he's consciously aware of how that's messing things up doesn't really matter in the end. Cause is still preceding effect. But honestly, he almost certainly is aware, and continues to make choices that are hurting you.

[–] [email protected] 66 points 1 year ago (4 children)

A person who is freezing to death because they refused to put on a coat is in crisis, but that doesn't make it your responsibility to light yourself on fire in order to keep them warm.

No matter what you choose to do, things are going to be difficult and awful for a little bit. But one path is going to lead to you eventually feeling a lot better, and the other path is going to have you marching around in circles and not really going anywhere at all. Your choice is whether to endure some really shitty times for things to get better, or to ensure some really shitty times for things to stay more or less exactly the same as they have been.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Why do you believe that?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

But if I can't needlessly denigrate Mr Snowden, how am I gonna convince you that Men in Black was a documentary about the real aliens that are real and really landed on Earth and work (for real) with the US government?

With credible evidence? But I don't have any because my guy is so much better than Edward Snowed-in off in Russia!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Also the "people these days aren't going to want to make art unless they can commercialize it" sentiment.

For as long as there has been art, doomsayers have been complaining that they've lived through the last of it to be produced.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

No reason it can't be both tbh

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I can't take that bet until I know which nipple is your favorite

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Music affecting emotions is not the same thing at all as someone writing music to affect your emotions?

[–] [email protected] 34 points 1 year ago

To be clear, "having the right to do whatever they want" does not equal "they're not dickbags for doing it."

Musk randomly decided to rebrand and stole a username he liked from someone because he's an asshole playing at feudal lord. Sure, there's no legal repercussions because it is his website. Doesn't mean he's not a fucking douche for doing it.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

We already know what happens when regulations are eased. People die, profits soar, workers are abused. It isn't some philosophical theory, it's what happens. It's what has always happened throughout history.

That's why there are regulations in the first place. Because horrible things kept happening to people and we collectively decided that it would be better if that didn't continue. Shitty things happened and as a result, regulations were put into place. That's what happened and that's the reality we live in. To suggest otherwise is to live in a fantasy land.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Why would it? Is that a problem for you? If so, talk to your wife about it.

There are literally hundreds of posts on the old relationship subreddits that start out the way yours did and end up having a "I pursued this new thing and deeply regret it" update.

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