Wtf, who needs two hands for that? Do they have children's hands?
It's all a matter of habit - for me all layouts but my native sucks for anything to do on a keyboard. The only thing that sucks is if keybinds are set to shift-/ because / is already shift-7. I haven't found a replacement for that yet. Forgot which program used that and for what, but I remember it was a bummer. Still wouldn't spend all that time and energy and slowdown learning a different layout.
There's lots of programmers on languages that need more keys readily than us keyboard has. Äöüß, just to give an example.
I don't know, every time I read a post like this I'm kinda speechless. I know lots of Americans and many of them are brillant and open-minded, but then there are posts like this which are completely oblivious that there are reasons for other keyboard layouts.
The reason OP can't fathom programming on those is that they aren't used to it. If you grew up with non-us layouts you similarly couldn't fathom programming on the us layout.
Sometimes I feel like people refuse to even think about acknowledging that there are other experiences than their own. Go out, try out new things, exercise your brain and callenge yourself.
I get where you're coming from. But if everyone thought your way, adversity will only ever grow.
You need to be upset, and you need to be working to reduce adversity for those who don't have the resilience it takes. Adversity is like chaos, if you never do anything it will overwhelm even the strongest person.
Your perspective is not wrong (perspectives rarely are), I just think it's unhelpful for the greater picture. It works for an individual, but it will do nothing for your peers. Instead, it serves to protect those who benefit from other people suffering and being disadvantaged, because if everyone practiced that there would not be enough anger to fuel change. And change is needed.
Anger and frustration is your energy. If you never get angry you'll never have the incentive to change the world. Your perspective is probably helpful with chronic conditions, because there's nothing to change about that, but in my opinion it's wrong to apply it to every situation.
If you find yourself facing human-constructed adversity, like in a society that doesn't want to do minimal changes that would only slightly inconvenience them but would greatly benefit some of their peers, I think your advice is harmful - because it quells the flames that are needed to fight for a better society.
You're missing the point here. This is not about making someone feel better about themselves but about making others realize how bad it was to finally spur them into action. Because it's so much easier to "admire" someone strong than just to do something about the adversity.
I know nothing about you, but if I just read your comment in this context I want to scream at you: You, too, think you're making a differene by trying to make someone feel good about themselves, but what have you done about easing their suffering? It's not like it has stopped, it will go on for the rest of our lifes.
You're just taking the easy way out by giving a pep talk then it's back to normal.
Now, like I said, I know nothing about you, and maybe this pep talk was from one survivor to another, but I'm just so damn tired to hear the same song and dance over and over. We don't need pep talks that make the talkers feel good about themselves, we need change. Good change.
Do you have the chance to sit the whole group down together and tank about that?
As in, tell them what you told us - you can't dm as you normally would and have to keepepulling punches because he keeps endangering the group and you dont want to punish the group for his bad choices. Remind them that you are supposed to have fun too and dming like you're walking on eggshells is killing yours.
I'm suggesting bringing it up with the whole group because it sounds like you brought it up with the player alone already. Or maybe you have focused too much on how they could play better instevd of how it negatively affects the group. Maybe they need to realize that even if this is fun for them, it's not for you - and maybe not for the others as well.
IMHO, this is something that should be talked trough with the group. Getting less lenient and not weakening your encounters is risking the wole group's fun, so it should be discussed with the group.
Enabling choices per se is a good thing, but if you have to rely on someone for life and death who knows how to shoot a gun, owns it, brings it and yet only uses a knife in the gunfight, it's gonna get you killed. And this should happen. Just make sure everybody knows about this.
Maybe this will spark discussion about why he makes these characters and why he plays them like this. Maybe it can help find something he enjoys. If not, the group is now prepared to die more often and you don't have to pull punches.
Ahhh, that makes more sense. Yeah, when it comes to food atm I generally listen to my body even though it may be not the healthiest option. My main reasons are 1) that I believe you typically crave the nutrition your body desires and 2) it's a "pick your battles" situation.
If you try to change everything at once cause you're fed up and decided your life needs to finally get back on track after an eternity of slacking, you're setting yourself up to fail. I know, I've failed umpteenth times that way 😔
So I decided what area to focus on and in those areas I'm like the first officer who offers commentary to the captain when the captain makes a decision (cause captain is impulsive and often doesn't even ask for comments before making that decision). I've fould a way to "phrase it" that makes the captain consider things I say and sometimes we change course.
Food/weight is not among the areas I'm actively involved in right now cause my energy is just not enough to change my eating habit while fighting my other habits. I'm still trying to keep it within boundaries that I decided on first, so I'll detail the compromise that I made with myself below. If that bores you, feel free to skip :) Most of it involves reasoning with myself, though, which I also like to frame as compromising with the inner child. I guess I just think of my impulsivity as someone to reason with, and you win some, you loose some?
I work in IT and sit a lot, though, so if I constantly crave chocolate I do question myself if this is just one of the following three:
Being bored and the sweet stuff moments I go, well, this is not a healthy reason to snack, what can I do instead? With frustration I more often than not give in.
Oh, interesting. To me it doesn't feel like orders, more like nagging? And the more I say no the more I want it. After I was able to afford things, my impulse buying went way down, because I didn't instantly think "no", but instead went "I could. But then I would use it once, and it would be in the way for the rest of my life, and it's a hassle" and all of a sudden thinking about the consequences makes me go "you know, maybe I don't need it after all..."
I encountered the concept in therapy, no idea where it comes from, but it just feels right to me :)
When I read your comment the first time and saw the "respectfully" I thought, wow, you are more polite than I have been x) it made me chuckle to see you reconsider (rightfully, in my opinion).
Edit: forgot a word
Yeah, I found the concept of the inner child very helpful. I think because of my upbringing I got disconnected from this and now I'm trying to not act yowards my inner child like my parents acted with me, but instead with love and patience and convincing instead of forcing. The more I do that, the easier it gets and the more cooperative the inner child becomes, because it is heard and believed and that is the basic for compromise imho.
More like sweettalking it? Like, brain is impulsive and wants instant gratification, and I'm like, "but if we finish this before, we could have this!" since I'm trying to set up my life in a way that I can coax my impulses into something productive.
I don't think my brain tells me much wrong shit. More like "wouldn't it be fun to tip this precariously stacked thing over and watch the chaos unfold..?" But I usually have a pretty good handle on this x)
I guess it's more setting up everything so the impulses go a productive way instead of them scattering. And bribing the brain x)
Not culturally dense, but absolutely unwilling to consider cultures outside their bubble other than as mere curiosities for entertainment. I stand by that.
Not unable to learn a new layout, but unwilling, because I don't see the point. Why would I waste time and energy on something that will at most bring me one more shortcut to use? Programming is not about typing speed. If the bottleneck for you is typing speed, your job is very different than anything I've seen or heard of.
I have never seen anyone but my computer-illiterate mom use two fingers for ctrl-z, hence I was expressing my bewilderment about that. I'll probably be able to do that move blind with one hand, and so are all of the people I know who use the computer in a professional setting. The only explanation I had for that was that they have exceptionally small hands so it's a necessity. If you want to take that as an insult of your hands, be my guest, but I'm done here.