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I'm curious if any of you still use anything other than fediverse. Since discovering it last year I've deleted all my non fedi social media, and it feels great!

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Nope.

Tried the big two didn't get anything out of it.

Dropped Reddit during the big storm.

I'm fine with things as they are now.

The lower amount of content on Lemmy is balanced by the increased quality and the fact I can't spend all day on here

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago

The lower amount of content on Lemmy is balanced by the increased quality and the fact I can’t spend all day on here

This is easily one of the greatest aspects of the fediverse for me so far; Reddit seemed great at first, when all of its content and communities were new to me, and as it gradually got more familiar and filtered and fine-tuned through my own activity, I noticed that I'd been just scrolling the thing mindlessly, aimlessly, hoping to experience something good, have a nice laugh, a nice read, just anything - ultimately wasting dozens of minutes, sometimes hours, with nothing but a sad sigh as a result.

Browsing Lemmy is a genuinely fun activity for a relatively short amount of time a couple of times a day max, always having a good time thanks to its quality and always having nice conversations because it's the culture so far, and never scrolling through endless equally poorly-thought-out posts or comments because even if there are any, they're few and far between.

I think I say the same things whenever I get to praise the fediverse in general and Lemmy in particular, but I just can't help myself.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Same here. Had it all back in the day but gradually ended up winding everything else but Lemmy down. These days I stick to RSS and Lemmy. Good balance of quality content and entertainment.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

Share your RSS feeds with us.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I used reddit and discord. Now I use lemmy and discord and occasionally mastodon but I dislike the format.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 10 months ago

I didn't like twitter before so I didn't really get into mastodon

[–] [email protected] 15 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Nope. I will never use centralised social media again. Too many years exposed to social media that just doesn't give a shit about the welfare of its users

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 10 months ago (3 children)

LinkedIn for job shit only. I don’t like follow and comment and shit. I don’t really get the whole point.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 10 months ago (1 children)

The point is to network and make yourself look very successful and likable, a great lover or humanity, one of the best in your field but yet the most humble and grateful for all things that happen in your life... :)

You regularly post obvious uplifting quotes to your peers, who likes them and writes little comments back about how true that quote is, hoping to be promoted the next time there is a company reorg.

I can't stand it. :)

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago (1 children)

hoping to be promoted the next time there is a company reorg

Surely this is just ass kissers liking and commenting on the bosses weird ass linked in ego trip?

Is anyone liking and commenting peer's linked in stuff thinking that'll score them a promotion? Why would the company care about this?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Where I have worked, try company arranges events at work, like cooking something, or some mystery game, and then takes pictures of that and posts on linkedin. Then they ask employees to comment and say how fun it was.

It's just HR marketing disguised as something else.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

I too loathe LinkedIn, but have to use it. To make myself feel better, I spend an equal amount of time on shlinkedin afterwards.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

Same bro 😮‍💨

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago

Reddit, Twitter, BlueSky. Does Discord count as social media?

There's something insular and self-righteous about the fediverse so I'll never only use it. But lemmy is pretty great.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago

Discord and Tumblr.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago

All of them. If a social media site exists, I'm on it. I have the world record for the most sites having signed up for.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago

Since Musk bought Twitter I've been more active on Tumblr and as long as you don't go anywhere that takes itself too seriously, it's actually refreshing and lovely.

Similarly, when I signed up for Bluesky I decided I'd only follow people I know IRL and artists, and to not be afraid to use the mute or block, and it's been great. Just a steady stream of art and people discussing art.

I've also got Mastodon, Pillowfort, and Cohost accounts I never really use.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago

YouTube+discord

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago

I have a bluesky account because several twitter friends went over there. I barely use it because my mastodon feed is a lot more interesting.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago

Discord until I find a reasonable alternative

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

YouTube, Reddit, Twitter and Pixelfed

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago
[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Yes, one beside Lemmy out of necessity. There is this app called LINE that started as a humble instant messaging service to serve as a communication aid during the Tohoku Earthquake in Japan. Now it tries to be everything: payment, shopping, interest groups, food ordering, ride calling, music, news, loaning money, etc.

I only use the LINE core function to get by every day, because everyone around me is using it, casually and professionally. My country is using it for everything, even in governmental affairs. It's however only very popular in Japan, Taiwan, Indonesia, and Thailand, where I reside. There are theories regarding why it is so popular in those countries, but one I believe is its "cuteness" functionality, where you can send "stickers" to each other, something like an elaborated emoji.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago

I, too, use LINE regularly because I used to live in Japan and have many friends there I'm in regular contact with. I agree with you that the cuteness is a significant factor for its popularity.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Youtube and check IG like once a week

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago

Mastodon and Instagram(To chat with friends) For contacting I use Matrix, XMPP, Telegram and IRC.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago

Not really. I have an Instagram account I haven't truly used in years but that's about it

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

I was all set to scrap my Facebook account as I never used it anymore. Then when I starting posting daily to [email protected], I basically set it up as a news feed for 50+ animals rescues to get me content.

I think my last post on Facebook other than responding to birthday wishes was 2 years ago.

The algorithm was recommending me a lot of crap for a long time, but lately it's gotten better actually.

It's still a pain to use, but for many rescues, it's the only way to get daily news about them, so I use it more than ever now, but I'm not contributing anything back into it, other than hopefully increasing traffic to the rescues.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

Not really. I watch YouTube videos with Invidious and yt-dlp, I lurk Reddit through RedReader, and I occasionally lurk Twitter through Nitter (but only very briefly). Lemmy is the only social media that I actively partake/interfere in.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

Actually, no. It's just here and mastodon

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I got rid of pretty much all social media. Since this is anonymous I don't really think of it as "social media" the same way I would Facebook or Twitter. The only other thing I have is an Instagram account under a fake name that I just use to follow a few celebrities and craft profiles and look at women trying to promote their OnlyFans accounts lol

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

anonymous

Pseudonomous, not anonymous.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

I tried screaming the latest r/new posts on the subway but I got stabbed. No more social media outside for me.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

Reddit and Discord. I have Facebook but barely use it.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

I have a Facebook account still. Mainly to communicate with different groups that I'm a part of in real life. If it wasn't for that I would delete it. My wife still has an instagram account and so I have one that I've never posted to just because sometimes she uses the stories feature to share short little fun recordings of the kids and so I want to be able to back them up since they don't get saved on device by default. I have linked-in for professional reasons but I literally on ever log in to update my resume.

I deleted twitter and reddit back in June.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

Only discord

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

I use Facebook daily since most of my friends are still on it (it's still pretty commonly used in Australia) and there's some groups that are more active than the equivalent communities on Lemmy.

I'm on YouTube daily too. It's still the place to find most video creators and there's not really a good alternative yet. I've been using it forever so their algorithm understands what types of videos I like.

I have an Instagram but rarely use it. My last post was maybe 5 years ago. I just use it to watch reels my wife sends to me.

I still have my Twitter account but only visit it maybe once every week or two. Same with Reddit.

Not on Discord or Tiktok.

I like long form discussion, which is why I prefer Lemmy and Facebook over Mastodon and Twitter.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

I still use redirects to visit Reddit (I don't bother if they don't work), mainly because one of the main communities I track didn't really move here.
Does Youtube count? That's pretty much the only other thing I could think of.

[–] Nugelz 1 points 10 months ago

Just YouTube!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

Yep - I use Facebook and Instagram regularly. I spend a lot of time in both tapping on "hide this" or "show less of this" or "report and block user", but I find it worth it for the interactions with some like minded people in hobby related groups. I'm aware of the privacy implications, but I figure I've been there for so long there's not much more for them to learn about me. I use ad and tracker blocking to slow them down a little.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago (4 children)

I'm thinking i need too, it seems to be a massive echo chamber on all the news and political communities.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

subscribe to what you like, block what you don’t, sort by subscribed. Problem solved.

I think people forget that when they are browsing the equivalent of “all“ that they are guests in communities that others have subscribed to. It’s not their job to change for you and if you don’t like what’s going on, you can simply filter them out. That’s why we have subscriptions in the first place.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 10 months ago (1 children)

That's even more insulated and creates a greater echo chamber

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

"Echo chambers" are incredibly common in our daily lives. I even really don’t get the whole “anti-echo chamber” thing. We select people to be friends we generally like and agree with. We often don’t associate with people we don’t like or disagree with. Why should social media be some totally egalitarian social exposure? That’s literally never been the case ever. We read what we want to read. We talk to who we want to talk to. I’m not going to be shamed into listening to some jerk who thinks gay people shouldn’t marry and belong in hell or whatever. I don’t want to share a beer with them, I would never invite them to dinner in my home, so why should I have to deal with them living rent free in my mind because I saw some ignorant post on social media yet again? It's not like I don't know homophobia exists, so I definitely don't need their particular brand of reminder and I know I shouldn't engage them because it's a pointless flame war.

I have plenty of work colleagues and family I disagree with, I read sources I don’t always love. I get plenty of exposure to other ways of thinking and ideas. Do I think people can go too far and literally only surround themselves with “yes men” socially? Sure. But come on. How many of us actually spend equal time with people we both agree and disagree ideologically with?

To be perfectly frank: the "echo chamber" argument is mostly just a cudgel used by the right to obliquely say a space is too liberal for their tastes. It's not a moral imperative and they are demanding everyone else conform better to their ideals while also saying it's immoral to leave.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

The problem with online echo chambers vs down at the pub having a beer is you can't ban the bloke down the pub and never hear out see him again.

These online communities ban whoever doesn't agree with them, reinforcing their ideas in their own minds. They begin to think everyone online agrees with them.

If you're down the pub and start sprouting half the nonsense that gets said in the far left and right communities, you're likely to get into an argument with any moderate person.

Unfortunately here everyone who doesn't agree is removed

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

down at the pub having a beer is you can’t ban the bloke down the pub and never hear out see him again.

I have watched bars kick out people countless times and know for a fact that some will refuse service to folks who repeatedly cause issues.

As for your description of these wonderful open dialogues happening at bars, I’ve literally never seen that in my life. People don’t just walk around challenging random people to debates and begin arguing with them. People also tend to act way nastier online than they do in person.

I also feel I need to remind you that this entire comment chain started because you talked about leaving this community because you don’t like what people are saying. Perhaps you should stay out of this bizarre moral imperative to hear all opinions and let everyone have your attention?

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