I don't know how it would be received in Spanish culture, but in the US this is common. I know several people with Chinese, Vietnamese, and Polish names who have either adopted Anglo-American names, or changed the spelling and pronunciation of their name to make life easier. In my opinion it's not a big deal. Also, it's fun when you get to know someone well enough to learn their "real" name.
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Asian immigrants do it all the time here.
How do people call you? They may have a "nickname" or a spanish name right? You don't have ro have a spanish name just a more "western" one. You don't have to translate you surname either just "americanize". For exemple Grzegorz Filipowski can be Greg, or Gregor Filipo.
I asked myself the same question when getting US citizenship (also born Polish). Ended up not changing my name (although in English few letters aren't exact, like using L instead of Ε). I don't mind showing my ID, but just like you, people still manage to mess it up. It often ends up being a starter to interesting conversations, which personally I've enjoyed. Having a real unique name can have an advantage - I've never received a bill that wasn't actually for me, unlike my American friends with common first name/last name combinations.
Good points, thanks.
Yes if it feels comfortable to you and will make your life easier, change it.
I had my name legally changed in 2018 to something I feel more comfortable with. Love it. No regrets.
How was the transition? Did you correct everyone when they used the old name or do you just let old friends keep using it? I would just let my polish friends/family use my polish name obviously.
I only changed my last name. Surnames rarely come up in conversation.
Nice to meet you, GregΓ³rio Felipe. π
Yeah that name makes sense. Is that surname to combine with the name? because it doesn't resemble your Polish surname. I think "Gregory Filipo" would be closest to your Polish one
I can't come up with another example in polish but my surname could be translated to Spanish equivalent, same as first name. It's like if you're George White and change it to Gregorio Blanco.
Is it possible to do a Spanish spelling of your current name?
Just the spelling? No, polish is to weird. As in my example, you can't spell Grzegorz in Spanish, you can only translate it to Gregorio or something.
Yeah, something like that. Something that still sounds very much like your name but is comprehensible to Spanish people.
Or Gregorz, which is similar, but maybe easier in Spanish.
That's a personal decision. You could list the pros and cons and then take a decission.
I think you can use Gregorio for your daily life (probably you already do that) and sometimes, when you have to do a legal operation, be patient as until now.
I'm a 100% Spanish person and I have the same difficulties as you! Mi name and surname are Basque (a language spoken in Spain, but different to Castilian Spanish; there are millions of Spanish people with Catalan names too + all the people from Europe, etc.).
Every time I have to spell my name or my surname (or both), I do it. And personally I have no intention to change them. My name and my language, as my family and my history, are important parts of my identity, and I'm proud of them. I'd recomend you to do the same, here in Spain and in any other place of the world. Also to speak Polish to your childs if you ever have any.
But as I said before, it's a personal decision and if the legal stuff you have to do sometimes are a real problem for you, change your name. Just be sure that you will not regret later for giving up a part of your identity.
Seems reasonable to change your first name to make your life more convenient, but unless people encounter these names, they'll never used to saying them.
In the UK it takes knowledge to know how to pronounce Irish names but one you've met a few Siobhans and Eoins you get used to it.
There is an element of historical oppression here though. Some people choose to use an Irish spelling because, well, the English keep trying to erase other cultures. That example didn't work out as well as I thought it would.
Oh, they will never get used to saying those names because they are just not able to make polish sounds. In polish there's a lot of weird sounds like 'szcz' (shsh) or thinks like 'prz', 'zsz', 'dΕΌdΕΌ' that foreigners just can't reproduce. My name is like that. And even if they learn to kind of almost say it they are never able to write it. People at work always make mistakes when writing my name.
As someone who doesn't speak Spanish at all, you could espanify your last name so that your name would be
Gregorio Filippo, or something similar?
Yes, that's exactly what I would do. My name is fairly easy to espanify
Cool. I thought Gonzalez was what you were thinking even though your current name would be easily espanified, turns out you think the same :D
How about using your Polish nickname (surely you have one?)? This would likely be easier to spell for the average Spaniard, while staying closer to your identity than going full "Gregorio GonzΓ‘lez".
I can use nicknames with friends but when someone has to write it down it's usually a legal matter (like talking to some official or bank) and they need my real name. And they need first and last name.
I meant using your polish nickname as your official Spanish name.
Yes, I could kind of do it for first name but I would still have to change my last name. When for example I call customer support and they ask me how to refer to me I just tell them something like 'Greg', something they can pronounce. But more often the need my actual name.
As a guy with an 8 character last name, I regret not taking my wife's 4 character last name...
It isn't about length, it's about how you use it. Take it from a 5 character last name where 3 characters aren't spelled how they're said