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I’m really curious where else everyone here hangs out on the internet besides Lemmy.

I myself am frequently on discord with my wife and friends playing games. I’ve also found myself in and around smaller blogs spaces like Kev Quirk and related people. Reddit used to be a place for me to hang out but I never found a community that I felt connected to. I don’t know if YouTube would be considered a place to hang out, but I frequently spend way more time there than I should. IRC used to be a great place for me.

So, where are your favorite places?

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[–] [email protected] 48 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I like Mastodon, but I gotta say, Lemmy has basically taken over as my go to boredom relief app. When I’m not on Lemmy, I’m probably on YouTube.

Then there’s work: GitHub and email.

And play: Steam.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

I don't get the whole twitter-like microblogging thing. Mastodon feels kind of strange to me because it's similar to that. I try to find a cool place to hang out there, but it always feels like a waste. But YouTube... the amount of time I give YouTube.. lol

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[–] [email protected] 37 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I'm still on IRC! There's a raw simplicity to it that I appreciate. You don't have to use a bloated Electron app to connect to a proprietary service, you can just go straight text on the protocol-level in terminal (if you're nuts), and the protocol is open and simple enough to understand that you can easily make your own client even if you're a lazy or mediocre dev.

So IRC, Lemmy, and I guess Instagram (if that counts)

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 year ago (3 children)

What IRC servers still exist that allow random people like me to just join but have interesting people and channels and not just trolls and spam?

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (5 children)

I second this question! I'd like to know some good servers with healthy communities.

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[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 year ago (8 children)

Ever since Reddit killed itself, the only places I really lurk are Kbin (and therefore Lemmy by proxy) and Discord. That's pretty much it.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (5 children)

I have ignored Discord for years until recently. It just seems like IRC with a lot of flashiness and emojis. Is there more to this experience? I don't intend to be disparaging, but I looked for some specific topic servers and just found the quality of discussion to be low and the experience to be chaotic.

I'm willing to be told I'm doing it wrong though - is there a "here's the right way to get into discord" approach I'm missing?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (8 children)

Discord shines when you use it with a tight-knit group. A RL friend group, a gaming clan, etc.

But there are a ton of these big public servers that are essentially just spam, because that's what happens when you collect a load of random people in one place who have one minor interest in common at best, and then try and get them to hang out socially.

It's a group chat app, not a forum. And being thrown into a group chat with 100 strangers is kind of the worst.

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 year ago (1 children)

98% YouTube and 2% Lemmy

If rest of the internet dissapeared it would take a while for me to notice.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (11 children)

I'm like 90% YouTube, 2% Lemmy and 8% just googling random stuff. Celebrity facts, historical events, programming problems, stuff I want to buy. YouTube is king though. Kinda hate that I waste so much time on it.

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 year ago

Honestly, I read more, do more gardening, play more videogames. Kinda a weird benefit, but I joined two book clubs and a walking group. Started going to a parenting group on Sundays so my kiddo and I are making more friends. I guess reddit just pissed me off enough to go out and be more in my community. It's kinda nice.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 year ago (8 children)

I think some of us are intentionally avoiding big tech now and try to find places online that doesn't feel completely dead soul wise.

Lemmy feels good for me, but I'm also looking for web sites where I feel connected to people.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Hacker News, mainly.

Sometimes I log on to Reddit to help travelers to my country or hobbyists trying to learn engineering. I try to avoid discussion on Reddit as the quality is often not high, e.g. lots of tourists asking how to commit crimes in my country -- better to just not answer.

For discussion I go here, it's much more interesting.

IRC has always been pretty cool. I might go back to that one day. For now this is just the part of my life where I try to make money and don't have much time to socialize.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Off the internet, on my intranet, and if possible, IRL. Most of my internet usage is checking specific YouTube channels like an RSS feed, which barely takes time or effort. Keep a tab on weekly top posts of headphones, datahoarder, piracy and VPNTorrents on Reddit. Rest is on Lemmy, trying to create engagement and moderate privacy and technology subs. Keep a monthly tab on data compression and archival. Updating my Brain.exe knowledge base is easy, passive and quick.

Truth be told, I am getting tired of the internet itself, as I get old. Always feels like I have seen it all, repetitive discussions, same comment chain jokes, tech or entertainment is no longer progressing enough for it to be worth to keep up with the snail speed. That is what happens when you are on the internet for 2 decades, during the Golden Age around 2007, post Golden Age and now into the death of the internet and its backbones. The soon to come change of international geopolitical dynamics with a split between west and rest of world, happening in parallel to distrust and disengagement with Big Tech fueling the growth of Fediverse, just means that we will no longer be a "global" community, going back to either small federated networks or our own good old walled off forum villages/kingdoms.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Reddit (only subs related to living in Japan since those didn't migrate here), kbin/lemmy, fark (though I almost never comment anymore), and an old-fashioned forum/bulletin board (more stuff related to living in Japan).

Edit: and I guess YouTube? 99% of the time, I'm watching from my TV which doesn't have comments or anything.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Primarily mastodon. Really enjoying that.

Facebook for relatives & friends from the real world.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I find the Mastodon/Threads/Twitter medium to be kind of hard to love sometimes. You must have found a great community! Where/who do you interact with on Mastodon?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Retrocomputing, film & art crowds.

I've been posting a lot of silent film stuff recently.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (6 children)
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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

At this point it's mainly Lemmy, Imgur, and Discord for me.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Do you just look at pictures on Imgur? Are there actual communities? I’ve only used it as a place to upload pictures to link on Lemmy or Reddit.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

XMPP MUCs, IRC, some Matrix Spaces. Lobsters, Mastodon.

I refuse Discord. I really wish I could refuse Microsoft GitHubβ€”source code doesn’t need to be a proprietary social media plaform.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

YouTube has kicked the wasp nest by blocking Adblockers. Lots of drama over there

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

What's weird is that you can still use ad blockers just fine while you're logged out. So I just open the videos in a private browsing tab to watch them, but in a regular tab to rate or comment.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (15 children)

Since leaving reddit with the migration, I'm now on Kbin, tumblr, Tildes, and playing somewhat more regularly on Subeta and Dappervolk.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

If it counts, I know a lot of people hang out on VR chat. It's a very common misnomer that you need a VR to run the platform, most of my friends don't even bother being in VR they just use it in desktop mode. I expect you probably meant more text-based, but I wanted to throw that on the board as well

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I only hang out here, been spending way less time browsing online, which I'd say is a good thing. Been playing more video games, and even reading.

Also I'm curious about Discord, when people say they hang out there, do they just find a channel they like and keep up with the chat all day?

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

My routine is, in this order, Lemmy, Mastodon, Tumblr

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Reddit for niche topics, Imgur for weird and funny.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Obligatory β€œfuck Reddit”

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I still use Instagram to keep up and chat with friends and Facebook only because my kid's school only posts there

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

The obligation to stay on Facebook for things like this is so frustrating at times. It feels like LinkedIn, where I have it because it's the only place to get some information.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Twitter and BlueSky. Shifting more so to the latter the worse the former gets.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (9 children)

No Mastodon? I always assume all of us lemmy people use Mastodon (if they are into the twitter kind of thing).

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Forums. Those of interests that interest me, specific games forums, OS forums, comic book forums, forums.

Lemmy is just a weird poorly-designed forum I also read.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

This is it. And board game geek. And discord.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

TV Tropes is absolutely packed if you ever want to join.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Even though I'm technically not hanging out with people, I like to occasionally look through some of the different sites on Neocities to see what cool things people have made.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Discord and the osrs grand exchange w390 or dustbowl tf2

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

YCombinator's HackerNews mostly.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

The only other forum I participate in is Arstecknica.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

According to my Android phone:

Sync for Lemmy in second or first place most of the time, same for Telegram.

A bit of Discord and Sync for Reddit too.

Firefox random searches.

A bit of Meta apps (almost zero use of Instagram, but it vary with Facebook, WhatsApp and Messenger, usually FB is the winner).

Feeder and Feedly at the very last (I get my tech news right here).

YouTube I use it a lot, not on mobile but my Shield TV

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)
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