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I'm currently struggling to find my home. I have an account here at lemmy.ml, where most of my posts are, and one at kbin.

Why do you think your instance is the place to be?

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I joined sh.itjust.works because I like the domain. It makes me smile πŸ™‚

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I read the thread where that domain was born, lol. It was pretty funny.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I kind of wish they chose "fedd.itjust.works" which was the other suggestion in that thread. "sh.itjust.works" is funny but looks like it's a shitposting instance.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I did not. I ended up on lemmy.world but visiting over, which I think is a cool feature.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I guess a better question would have been, "Why did you choose your instance?"

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

Lemmy World is run by chill people with experience. They run Mastodon.world, which is a top 10 Mastodon instance.

Since the start it's been the most stable instance I think, they bought a beefy server after all the Reddit shenanigans and aren't imposing any weird restrictions. Would recommend.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

I chose lemmy.world solely on the fact it had a lot of members. Lemmy.ml was a contender too. I just wanted to jump in and check things out. Knowing (slightly)more now, I don't think it was a bad choice.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

I joined Beehaw early on when things where a lot quieter because I liked what they were trying to do (and back then there were only like two instances, and I didn't want to put more load on lemmy.ml).

Joined sh.itjust.works to make a community after the sysadmin just casually walked up with a huge server, which is a level of swagger I can get behind. I've since moved to this as my "main" account since Beehaw defederated with lemmy.world and sh.itjust.works (which sucks, but is understandable).

May move again to pawb.social at some point, although that means people will know something about me. :P

Edit: And now pawb.social has defederated with sh.itjust.works... I'm getting more and more tempted to just roll my own personal instance just for me...

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Not gonna lie. I've got multiple accounts across platforms. But yours seems to be responding quickly and the content is solid, so... here I am.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Yeah, I was a bit confused at the start and in my haste created a few different accounts across kbin, lemmy.world, and Mastodon. Worst case scenario I have backups and I'll just end up using the instance I prefer the most, the most.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

feddit.de because it was made for german potatoes like me

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)
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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

The github page said to pick one at rasdom and not over think it.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I joined lemmy.ml because the join-lemmy site gave me extremely little to go on. It was a coin toss between this and beehaw.org once I realized how few instances were established and not right-wing.

That was only 2 weeks ago and already I've seen the site force 2 server upgrades, even as the admins have strongly encouraged new users to join elsewhere to prevent centralization.

The instance list desperately needs a few columns added, including whether new signups are encouraged or discouraged.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

lemmy.world seemed reputable with a straightforward domain name, and no out-of-the-ordinary policies.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Lemmy.ml re-opened registration but I had problems signing up. Lemmy.world seemed like the next best option.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Back in my day, the only instance that federated with all other instances was lemmy.ml πŸ‘΄πŸ»

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Kbin because it was the first one that actually let me register and didn't freeze

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Seriously, this. I tried for days to register on Lemmy. One day I was mid-registration and the button was just spinning, doing nothing, so I came over to kbin, registered and started using the site. Lemmy never stopped spinning. No thanks.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

feddit.dk. I wanted a regional instance as my home instance, because they tend to be chill with controlled growth, while also having native language discussions. My country didn't have a Lemmy instance at the time, so I picked the closest option. I love Denmark and they don't seem too annoyed by my presence (yet). Thanks for having me 🫢🏻 πŸ‡©πŸ‡°

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (6 children)

I just picked lemmy.one mostly at random, but also in part because it advertised itself as well regulated but also not heavily populated and thus prone to crashing with the recent influx of reddfugees.

Seems to work okay, but I can't create a community without admin approval and the instance also disallows downvoting, and I'm not a big fan of that at all, but I'll give it a while longer and see.

I'm still finding it a challenge to find the balance of communities that interest me I used to have. There's an awful lot of meta chatter about the site itself from new users that, while I understand, gets rather annoying when it takes up the whole feed. So it's definitely an adjustment, resulting in me using it less than I did my old haunts, but in the meantime I've gotten a lot more reading done than I used to, so I've got that going for me.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I was looking for a furry one. Found pawb.social and yiffit. Stuck with the one that had nsfw. They both are Lemmy instances

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

I run a Mastodon server and Lemmy started to grow, happened to find a cool domain so here we are

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

lemmy.ml says they are overloaded, I then found beehaw but they requires signup application so I say fuck it and choose lemmy.world instead.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

I think kbin.social is a bit more free speech. I want less moderation. Lemmy has easy tools to use to block users and communities I find offensive so if something really offends me it’s easy to block. I prefer to control it rather than having some petty mods play king with what I’m allowed to see.

If anyone has any good suggestions for other free speech instances I’d love to hear!

[–] sleepyTonia 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I tend to hang in indie game development subreddits and didn't want to have to deal with confrontational trolls on a regular basis, so programming.dev felt like a relatively safe choice since it's neither a super large server or a general-purpose one. I just wanna make lil' games and have little patience for those lacking in empathy and maturity.

[–] ghostinthewires 3 points 1 year ago

Programming.dev represent! πŸ™ŒπŸ½

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Lemmy.world initially cause I didn't like the overbearing moderation and locked communities of beehaw.org and the developers of lemmy.ml. Kbin seems to be great and I prefer its timeline / sorting, I just wish it was a bit more polished with magazine syncing and certain UI features, but that should come with time.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

I'm self-hosting my own Lemmy instance, but I might switch to self-hosting kbin instead. I'm just unsure whether it's possible to migrate comments and posts from Lemmy to kbin :/

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I joined mander.xyz because it has a central theme around the natural sciences. It could possibly include STEM content as well; there is an ongoing discussion about it. The admin(s) are present and very responsive.

For anyone with a love of science and/or nature I recommend it highly as a home instance of Lemmy.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

My current instance has a bunch of sports communities, and typically the first thing i like to look at when i was on reddit were the sports subs. I was previously on beehaw but they kind of shut themselves off from some of other big communities so i migrated off

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I was told it was better for load balancing if we didn't all use the same one. So I just looked for one that had easy signups and didn't seem overeager to block stuff. Apparently, some from this instance come form /r/china. I'm not, but I do drink coffee. Anyway, I think it's working out so far; better than reddit anyway.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I joined @lemmy.world because the admin @[email protected] had a lot of experience running a large Mastodon instance, and @lemmy.ml was asking folks to go elsewhere.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Joined sh.itjust.works since it's located in North America, has open registration, and the admin sounds like he knows what he's doing running a server. I've stayed 'cause it's been stable and I like the admin's vibe. It and lemmy.world seem to have become the main large "general purpose" instances since they both have open registration.

I also have an account on kbin that I'm not using much at the moment. I think that site has lots of future potential, though.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Kbin just because I love the interface and I love the idea of having both articles and microblogs!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I joined lemmy.fmhy.ml because it allowed NSFW without being focused on it and I prefer the more open approach.

I'm very happy with my choice

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infosec.pub because their communities were interesting.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I chose beehaw. I chose wrong. So now I'm on lemmy.world and nothing was lost 😎

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Thought about switching over, with zero knowledge of this platform, clicked random link in reddit thread and it was lemmy.world. turns out it's populated and stable.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I created my own instance so that I know it will not just "go away".

Edit: I have a feeling that a lot of instances, besides the big ones, will vanish after the newness wears off.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I bounced back and forth between several lemmy instances and kbin.social. I feel like I gave them all a fair shot. I ended up sticking with kbin because I like the interface better, and it integrates with the fediverse better (microblog/mastodon integration). It is younger though, so it still has some more growing pains to go through, but the developer is very active, so I'm confident it'll get there. Ultimately, it will have a much more robust feature set than lemmy, and I still won't miss out on anything posted in a lemmy instance.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

This was linked on some post about alternatives to that other site I want to stop using. And honestly I'm quite confused on the "it doesn't matter/it does matter" so I'm just rolling with it and not trying to worry about it.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I chose kbin.social because of the alleged tankie issues at Lemmy. I didn't know enough about the fediverse to realise though that only a handful of Lemmy instances were included in the "warning" I'd heard about, so I looked to kbin instead.

Based on what I've seen from the admin here, though, I'm confident I'm in the right instance. He seems like an honest, stand-up dude who genuinely believes in all the best things the fediverse seems to be capable of

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Lemmy.world: because it was the top result on Google and I neither knew about the other servers nor remembered my experiences with Mastodon.

Probably going to stay here anyway.

Mostly out of laziness

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Knowing that Beehaw and Lemmy.ml were overloaded, I chose the next biggest one in my country at the time, which was Lemmy.one.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Feddit.de because the guys at R/de linked to it

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

funny domain name

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