Neurodivergence

Yeah, diagnosed at 31 here. So many coping mechanisms that do or don't work.

Unfortunately during the summer I have to choose. My meds or decongestants to at least reduce the misery from bad seasonal allergies.

Can't make doctor appointments, can't remember to call a contractor to fix the porch, forget to call people on their birthdays, forget to cancel subscriptions, can't remember to do simple task, or return things under warranty....etc I always remember things in the middle of the night, when you can't call any of the businesses or people you need to call, or drop anything off.

Work is my hyperfocus time, so all the other tasks and todos I have vanish from my brain till after, even with meds.

It's frustrating man, I feel ya, shit sucks.

I find that most of my 'coping' mechanisms are actually 'tools' that could have been developed with a therapist to help fit into society... So they're usually a good thing, as long as it's not just ignoring problem 🫣

When things go bad, it usually help to take a short vacation from work, take some rest and take care of my personal life.

Mistakes happen, but such it live for everybody in some way or another!

That does sound exhausting, sorry you are going through that OP.

One possible option is physical lists like taping a list to your desk. Especially for things like a daily routine. You can also tape a list to your bathroom mirror for morning and night routines.

I would HIGHLY recommend obsidian over Notion for knowledge management.

Mainly from a portability and data-ownership perspective.

However, I'm a dev, so I may be biased towards solutions that give me lots of freedom to utilize different technologies to get exactly what I want.

What templates have you looked at?

I did sign up for Notion; I thought it would be a helpful repo for things like notes that I'd previous been writing down. However the amount of setup involved is preventing me from using it, like it did for Todoist. I would find something plug-and-play to modify and build off of very helpful.

It's not like the service itself is complicated. It's that I really struggle to prioritise what's important, or categorise. My comments are miles long because I don't know what words to cut, and I'm terrible at reducing grey spectrums down to black and white for things like NSFW filters or category sorting; I despise having to put #tags of anything I upload and I can't estimate how long a task takes either.

The most useful thing I've found as of late is goblin.tools; the todo list uses Open AI to generate subtasks based on how scary/hard it feels to do. This is the part I actually struggle with; I'm extremely productive when I know exactly what I need to do.

Building a personal wiki seems like a great idea of documenting things like grounding exercises or strategies. I guess I'm hoping somebody's done the skeleton for me, so I don't procrastinate it for a year until I eventually close the tab.

I spent weeks building a calorie tracker in Numbers to help me lose weight, which worked amazingly well. For a month.

Then I forgot to put a few meals in, got annoyed with myself, got the self loathing, decided that the tracker was now damning evidence of how flaky I am, and abandoned it.

I'll look into Notion though.